All of us know what it's like to be dogged by parts of us that want to drag us down. Call it what you will: some compulsion or obsession seems to follow us into all our relationships, only to wreck them in one way or another. We struggle as best we can to free ourselves from these dark states but invariably find ourselves short of the mark.

Have you ever heard within you, not necessarily in words, something to the effect of "Oh no, not this again!"? Perhaps we're looking at the latest flame of our heart and we see a fire in his or her eyes, but it's not because they are looking at us. In that moment we no longer see the moment unfold as it is, but rather we stand there transfixed -- experiencing the moment as we are; and we are not really present!

In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley explains that the ending of any form of addiction begins when we stop following the suggested actions for resolution that come from the very problem itself.

In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley explains that every sleeping human being is a narcissist, seeing nothing but him or herself in everything that happens, and then not wanting anything that challenges the glorified self-image. Freedom comes from the seeing of these facts.

In this short video, Guy explains that there is a treasure hidden inside all of us, and that part of this treasure includes the understanding that we are not who we think we are.

Question: I know it's a mistake looking to someone else for a sense of myself, but how can I keep from giving myself away? Answer: What good is any feeling we may have about ourselves, if it only lasts as long as others agree to it? Seeking and receiving approval from others is like sitting down hungry to an imaginary meal. You're invited to eat all you want, but no matter how much im...

We are masters at fooling others into thinking we have command of ourselves, but any attempt to appear as anything other than what we are is not only a lie but an act of fear. There is no real consolation in that kind of self-consciousness, as it is a default role that has been selected for us without our knowledge.

Question: I don't know why sometimes I feel so much resentment toward the very people whose approval means the most to me. It just doesn't make sense. When these times come, not only am I unsure of why I am acting the way I am, but I don't even like myself. It doesn't add up! How can a person be in charge of his own life one minute, and in the next minute find it in someone else's hands? What'...

Guy Finley explains the key to being able to discern the true inner guide from a false one.

Guy Finley explains that fear is not real any more than the shadow of an object is the object itself. It is merely a projection of a nature that has set itself against what is real. Just as we cannot defeat the hydra by attacking its individual heads, we must work to see and change the nature itself that uses the many heads of fear to divert us from its hiding place in us.

In this brief talk, "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about how the discovery of who we really are -- our "true self" -- is possible only as we become more and more aware of the legion of false identities that have been operating mechanically in the dark.

In this short talk, "letting go" author Guy Finley explains that there exists within all of us a lower nature that is always operating unconsciously to get us to be the expression of its will. Awareness of that nature allows us to cease identifying with its mechanical movements.