Key Lesson Part I: Those pointed negative states that jump out of us whenever we rush to blame someone else for our pain are always dead-end streets whose one-way signs deceptively read: This way out!
Part II: In a heated moment of a trial with someone else, instead of struggling in vain to get him or her to see the lesson in it for them, we should learn to ask ourselves, "What is the hidden lesson in this for me?" Then not only do we take the one True Action possible for us to make -- which is to invite the healing light of personal self-discovery -- but also we rightly enable that other person involved to learn his own unique lesson. Only our conscious refusal to continue playing the game of "who is right and who is wrong" can teach us that dark or fiery negative states are always wrong for everyone involved.
