To change what we receive from life, we must have a new perception of it, beginning with new ideas about it. Our perception now -- the way we tend to see ourselves -- is determined largely by the belief that life come to us from outside of us, and then eventually enters into our experience.
If we continue living as an outer-oriented person, we will be doomed to repeat our life the way it has always already been. This recurrence is reincarnation of self by the self, only as it cycles back through itself, our life tends to descend and get worse because the false self (our lower nature) gets smaller as it psychically circles back through itself. In other words, unless we have new ideas through which to see our world, we'll keep receiving what living at this (lower) life level yields in return.
In the New Testament, John the Baptist -- a man dedicated to preparing the way for the Messiah -- taught that any person who wanted to experience real life, should "repent," and that "the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand." In the ancient Aramaic, the original language used in that region of the world during Christ's time, the word "repent" did not necessarily have the negative connotation of evil-doing and self-recrimination that it carries today. Back then, the word "repent" did not suggest that we should suffer over our past. The actual translation of "repent" (or as close as we can come using modern English) was a very present oriented word meaning to turn around. To "repent" was a spiritual instruction urging the individual to turn in another direction. In essence, what John was saying was, "Turn yourself around. The Kingdom is here... now!"
If we can see that presently we are all wrapped up in our ideas, and that these ideas of "ours" are produced by our past experiences, loaded and reloaded back into us through conditioned reactions to events... then the question of how to turn around in life takes on sudden and new meaning.
The good news is that there is another you, another life where your experience of yourself is completely different because you've learned to face in a whole new direction. Until you understand what it means to turn around, you can't have that new relationship that turning around naturally, effortlessly, produces.
What's the new direction? Inward. You know how you are now... clearly living an outwardly directed life. There are no new ideas that you are going to receive from the self that is looking where it is looking, because the only world it knows doesn't have new ideas. Only within the ever-becoming presence of the inner world is there something truly new that can happen to you.