Unwanted life lessons repeat themselves again and again. Why? Because we keep talking to ourselves about them. Whether they happened two minutes -- or even 25 years ago -- we talk to ourselves about things we regret or feel guilty over. In fact, the mind almost never stops talking. Something triggers a thought that is the left over, undigested energy of an event that was meant...

Following is a small excerpt from a "fireside chat" between Guy Finley and Dr. Ellen Dickstein as they explored the topic of The Power to Release Regrets and Get Over Guilt. Guy: We don't "learn" the way that we think we learn... which is by reliving things. No one learns anything by reliving a situation. Ellen: This reminds me of something you said that I found very interesting...

Every creature in nature has work that nature has given them to do. They must do this work in order to survive. They have no choice, and their work doesn't end until their bodies pass. There is no stress or fear in what they are given to do. We as human beings also have work that we have been asked to do in this world, both practical and for the sake of spirit.

Whenever painful events happen, they tend to fall on only one of two sides of a person. The first side is the denial side. When turning this way, refusal rules. Regret, self-pity, and endless explanations generally follow. Or, the unwanted moment falls on the angry side, where the turning is to burning. Resentment rages. Hatred and feelings of betrayal mushroom into....

Guy Finley explains that you would never sense that something is stealing your life if there weren't the presence of a higher nature within you that made you aware of it.

Guy Finley explains that when we lend our attention to considering any worry, blame, regret, or resentment, we have unknowingly agreed to be commanded by that negative state.

Any wave of resentment, anxiety, or fear that comes to wash you away is nothing more than a kind of psychic residue left over from who you once were.

Real spiritual strength is realized, slowly, by daring to detect and drop the blind negative states that we've been allowing to define us.

Many times, darkness is the medium, sorrow the seed, and the subsequent humility conceived in these trials is the divine garden in which our soul flowers.

An inner place of safety exists. If we stand in that new position, no dark feelings can affect us. That position has always been there, waiting for us to find it. It is the place where the True Self resides. But we have mistakenly believed that only two options were open to us: to either stand and suffer, or run away and suffer, with our problems in constant pursuit. We always listened to the...

The self-defeating desires that drag us around belong to a nature that always feels incomplete. Nothing this false self tells us to do does one thing to loosen its hold on us. Fighting with it -- as we have done in the past -- only slays "half the foe," while giving in to it leads nowhere but to more self-recrimination. This torment, and all other suffering associated with its kind, is needles...

In this video, Guy Finley reveals that the solution to any disturbance is found right in the heart of the disturbance. It's not relief from our pain that we are after, but the full realization of this "denying self" that sets itself against life.