In this excerpt from an online Q&A with Guy, he converses with an attendee about how we can always choose to start over with any difficult relationship.

Guy explains the interior meaning of the expression "familiarity breeds contempt," which has to do with a nature that only knows itself by revisiting the past. The more that it dwells on the past, the more dissatisfaction grows, and the less able we are to keep from falling into a pit.

We are not here to change other people. Whether or not someone else wants to change has nothing to do with us. We can change. We can use the resistance, cruelty, selfishness, and negativity of others to turn our attention around and see what it is inside of us that rises up to protect the images that we have of ourselves. When we see clearly the parts of us that want to fight because of someo...