Judgment

Guy Finley answers a viewer's question about the constant self-judgment we impose upon ourselves. He explains that the need we feel to "succeed" comes from an identity attached to an end goal, and when that goal isn't met, it feels like everything falls apart. Guy goes on to say that instead of trying to control the judgments...

Guy answers a viewer's question about giving up anger and self-judgment when a friend shuts you out. Discover ways to navigate relationships with understanding and compassion. We spend so much time measuring ourselves, hoping to come out ahead, yet measuring inherently contains the "short stick."

In this insightful video, we explore the cycle of self-hate and its hidden dynamics. Many of us unknowingly nurture self-hate by identifying with the negativity it generates, creating a perpetual loop of blame and judgment. The key to breaking free lies in awareness—learning to observe and question the patterns driving self-punishment. 

In this Q&A Guy Finley explains that what we really fear being judged is what we have imagined ourselves to be and what we then think we need to do to protect what we've imagined.

In this short talk, self-realization author Guy Finley talks about the benefits of a quiet mind, which includes the recognition and letting go of the pain that is inherent in the mind's judgment of both yourself and other people.

In this answer to a viewer's question, Guy explains that self-judgment cannot exist without an image of ourselves that we hold onto. To see this fact is the beginning of the end of painful judgment of both yourself and others.

Student Talks: 12/05/2025 - 

Part 1

If you find yourself harboring resentment -- filled with angry thoughts or painful regrets -- having surrendered to the suffering induced by your own negative considerations... be warned: in the darkness of that nature is where affliction hides; it abides there, breeding the conflict it has with the natural tides of life, waiting to consume those who consent to enter the hell wherein it dwells.

Part 2

The hell in which we dwell is the conflicted experience of a conditioned mind trapped in a time it can't escape because it recreates it each time it returns there to resist and relive, again, a time of its own making!

Student Talks: 11/28/2025 - The clearer we can see that negative states must have an excuse to exist within us, the sooner -- and more strongly -- will arise in us a refusal to grant them a place anywhere in our heart, mind, or soul.