Judgment

Stop being a victim of "Yesterday's News"! Calling on "what was" to deal with "what is"... is like being stranded on a deserted island, without any food, and hoping to make your growing hunger pains go away by reading and re-reading "Best Places to Dine Around Town"... the one magazine that washed up with you when you staggered onto shore.

Guy Finley answers a viewer's question about the constant self-judgment we impose upon ourselves. He explains that the need we feel to "succeed" comes from an identity attached to an end goal, and when that goal isn't met, it feels like everything falls apart. Guy goes on to say that instead of trying to control the judgments...

Guy answers a viewer's question about giving up anger and self-judgment when a friend shuts you out. Discover ways to navigate relationships with understanding and compassion. We spend so much time measuring ourselves, hoping to come out ahead, yet measuring inherently contains the "short stick."

In this insightful video, we explore the cycle of self-hate and its hidden dynamics. Many of us unknowingly nurture self-hate by identifying with the negativity it generates, creating a perpetual loop of blame and judgment. The key to breaking free lies in awareness—learning to observe and question the patterns driving self-punishment. 

Perhaps you've worked hard to be more aware of yourself in the Now, and that for this effort you catch a glimpse of how quick you are to judge others, to criticize them for their "failings." This pain that strains you -- and those you touch with it -- is itself a creation of a false sense of your own perfection. But your awareness of its punishing presence within you is the same as your invitation to transcend the negative nature that is responsible for it.

The easiest thing in the world is to walk around unconsciously feeling superior to everyone we meet. But with what do we measure? A critical spirit? A judgmental mind? What kind of eyes have to look down on another to convince themselves of up?

Real life is not by the numbers; it is impossible to "know" and grow at the same time. Yes, one can have a formula for a prescription drug, or a recipe for a good green salad; but there is no system of thought that can stand up to the ever-shifting changes of real life, let alone meet those same changes fearlessly. The self that knows itself through thought can never develop beyond the content of itself, any more than a math equation can suddenly outgrow...

In this Q&A Guy Finley explains that what we really fear being judged is what we have imagined ourselves to be and what we then think we need to do to protect what we've imagined.

In this short talk, self-realization author Guy Finley talks about the benefits of a quiet mind, which includes the recognition and letting go of the pain that is inherent in the mind's judgment of both yourself and other people.

One of the most slippery parts of the upper path is the temptation to judge ourselves -- to loath ourselves for whatever "weakness" is exposed to us in the moment. The act of judging ourselves in times like these seems natural and even necessary if we hope to ever "outgrow" our own limitations as revealed. But this kind of self-laceration is a Trojan horse within whose dark recesses lies...

In this answer to a viewer's question, Guy explains that self-judgment cannot exist without an image of ourselves that we hold onto. To see this fact is the beginning of the end of painful judgment of both yourself and others.