Negative States

Could you give some insight into loneliness and how to abolish it? At times it seems to me that the more I realize about the awesome nature of spiritual love, the more loneliness I feel in my current human relationships. I long to share my discoveries with others, but who do I turn to? Sometimes I feel a deep loneliness in my heart. I know I have many tools to be happy, and the most important...

What's wrong with knowing that someone or something outside of me is responsible for making me feel unhappy? Over and over I fall into the trap of wanting to lash out and blame other people for what seem to me to be injustices in their actions. How can I learn to suppress that immediate reaction to point the finger at someone else? After certain negative events take place, I think I'll regain...

I am constantly feeling overwhelmed by all the different demands on my time. It seems that I live out each day trying to "keep my head above water." This inevitably leads to discouragement that I will ever succeed at anything. I am feeling overwhelmed by sadness and a sense of futility. I just cannot seem to move out of this negative state because the pain feels so real to me. What inner act...

Student Talks: 03/20/2026 - 

Part 1: I can't speak to you of life without speaking to you of death; not the death we fear, but the fear we have of it. For to live in fear is to die in slow motion.

Part 2: Our principle fear is not what any moment may or may not bring, rather what we really fear in any unwanted moment is our reaction to it.

Student Talks: 05/16/2025 - The only thing good about any negative reaction is the revelation of how useless is that (level of) suffering to change anything about our present nature, let alone the condition it convinces us to blame for its pain.

Student Talks: 05/9/2025 - Spiritually speaking, the Light of awareness is the universal solvent.

Student Talks: 6/28/2024 - Key Lesson: The greatest possibility for incarnating the subtle energies required for transformation is best realized in moments of a heightened awareness that, in turn, appears at the same time and place of maximum resistance (to some unwanted moment).

Student Talks: 7/15/2022 - Key Lesson: The problems and pains that plague a divided mind disappear in the same moment as they appear in a mind unified with itself.

Student Talks: 10/8/2021 - Key Lesson: Part 1: Everything is temporary. Part 2: Resistance to any unwanted moment fixes, at once, an unwelcome sense of self that then feels stuck in the negativity it struggles to escape. Liberation from this sorrow begins as we awaken to realize a shocking truth: there is no psychological suffering that isn't rooted in some form of unconscious...

Student Talks: 9/17/2021 - Key Lesson: Part 1: What power has any painful moment over us save for having become unconsciously identified with our own negative reaction to it. Seen properly, this means the event we blame for our suffering is like looking in a mirror... and blaming the reflection for whatever we don't want to see in it! Part 2: Our willingness -- and the inner work it takes...

Student Talks: 4/2/2021 - Key Lesson: If it feels like the same unwanted moments keep coming around... think again: reality never repeats itself; creation is always new. To know why life seems to repeat itself -- and painfully so -- we need look no farther than to see how instantly identified we become with our (own) recurring negative reactions.

Student Talks: 6/14/2019 - Key Lesson: The sooner we realize the wisdom of refusing to excuse our negative states... the sooner will these dark thoughts and feelings excuse themselves from our life.