Negativity

In this insightful video, we explore the cycle of self-hate and its hidden dynamics. Many of us unknowingly nurture self-hate by identifying with the negativity it generates, creating a perpetual loop of blame and judgment. The key to breaking free lies in awareness—learning to observe and question the patterns driving self-punishment. 

The next time that you find yourself in a stew, regardless of how practical it seems, just quietly note and ask yourself, why is there negativity involved in a practical decision? What does negativity have to do with what I need to do? If you just ask yourself that question, you'll start to see that there is always something at the bottom of what it calls practical that's pushing you to get something reconciled in your life.

In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley explains that it is not enough to simply say that you are no longer going to be deceived by negative states such as fear and anger. If you ever want to be free and in command of your own mind, then you must begin to taste the bitterness inherent in those poisonous negative states...

In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley talks about the imperative to observe the nature of negativity itself instead of complying with whatever the negativity is telling you to do.

In this answer to a viewer's question, Guy explains that the task for us is not to try to suppress negativity through our own effort. Instead, the task is to watch, to be aware of the negativity so that its actual harmful nature can be revealed. Awareness already knows what to do with negativity without us having to think about it.

Topics covered:  The world that we look for outside of ourselves in order to provide us with meaning cannot provide it. We are looking for meaning in a world where it doesn't exist; What if the shocks that you would normally avoid are actually the doorway to what your heart has been looking for?; "Vanity of vanities; all is vanity. What profit hath a man of all his labour which he taketh under the sun? One generation passeth away, and another generation cometh: but the earth abideth for ever." -- Ecclesiastes, Old Testament.

Key Lesson: Learn to let your love of exploring new and open spaces replace all of the ever-diminishing pleasures... found in all the old familiar places.

Have you ever talked yourself into a dark place -- or watched someone else do it -- by identifying with a negative reaction that wouldn't be there at all if it wasn't being fueled by the fear of some pain as imagined coming?

Remastered Classic Talk: 12/2/15 - 

Part 1: Awakening to the presence of some weak, or otherwise painful character at large within us marks the beginning of the end of its command over us.

Part 2: The longer one is able to observe oneself -- all parts of oneself, unadorned -- the less interest one has in being identified with any of these (separate) parts while, at the same time, the more willingly does one commit to do the inner work it takes to witness them.

Remastered Classic Talk: 11/9/16 - 

Part 1: We resist not what we see as being fearful, but rather what fear sees whenever we look at our life through its eyes. And the reason this fearful nature trembles, as it does, resisting its own dark vision, is so that it can feel unsuited to meet the very situation that it has imagined.

Part 2: We are never overpowered by a negative reaction, regardless how strong it may seem; rather we are overcome by misunderstanding our actual relationship with that dark thought, or emotional state.

Remastered Classic Talk: 07/20/16 - Here is a great unseen Law: never ask someone to do for you what you haven't first struggled with, mightily, to do for yourself... For in adherence to this Law not only will you be open and willing to admit your present set of limitations, but you will also be forever grateful to whoever steps forward to help you see how to transcend them.

Remastered Classic Talk: 06/29/16 - False certainty is a fool's certainty: it is based in the illusion that the more strongly we feel about any given moment -- in particular, the more negative we are over whatever may have transpired -- proves not only the truth of our unique perception... but also why we're so certain that whatever conclusion we reach goes well beyond the measure of any doubt.