Painful Memories

How to heal from grief after losing a loved one, and use our suffering for its intended purpose, is answered in this insightful video. When an aspirant asks Guy Finley how to heal from grief after losing his wife, Guy explains the difference between the natural pain of loss versus unconsciously revisiting the past which only ensures our continued suffering.

In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley explains that the fear of being rejected by another person is caused by a mind that is reliving an old painful memory, tricking you into believing that what happened in the past is the only possibility.

Topics covered: When does the world change? When you change the way you see the world; The blessed ones through the ages have tried to convey the idea that you need new eyes to see what is in front of you all the time but that you don’t currently see. And the reason you don’t see is because the impressions that are intended to produce a real change are deflected by all kinds of buffers — beliefs, conditions, longings.

Classroom Talk: 4/17/2024 - Part 1: Fear of any weakness is a part of the weakness feared. Part 2: The more we try to forget our weaknesses, the stronger they become.

Topic: How to End the Daily Painful Dramas in Your Life (Classroom Talk 5/3/23)

Classroom Talk: 5/3/2023 - There is no thought, no memory from the past that of itself can cause us pain; the only reason we suffer for their appearance is because we don't want to relive the unwanted experience they remind us of... not to mention how -- for our resistance to that same recollection -- we become its unwitting captive.

Topic: Walk Away from the Pain of Yesterday (Classroom Talk 12/7/22)

Classroom Talk: 12/7/2022 - It is impossible to teach the true nature of mindfulness, but it is possible to see the consequences of living from an unattended mind.

Topic: Transform the Pain of the Past into a Healing Power (Classroom Talk 10/26/22)

Classroom Talk: 10/26/2022 - Fear of the future is a negative memory: (it is) the ghost of some past painful experience disguised as "what may be."

Topic: Escape the Prison Called the "Pain of the Past" (Classroom Talk 8/17/22)

Classroom Talk: 8/17/2022 - Unconscious identification with any pain from the past -- especially as it involves, or otherwise lends support to some negative perception of oneself -- is a slow-acting poison that, once ingested, soon darkens the soul and leads to its destruction.