In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley explains that in an unwanted moment, we have the choice to be actively aware of the burning reaction, or we can be passive and allow the reaction to dictate our actions. The awareness of the consciousness that has the reaction is the beginning of our freedom from it, and there is no other freedom than that.

In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley talks about making an exercise for yourself as a reminder of your wish to not get carried away by habitual negative reactions when they appear.

In the highest parts of our consciousness, there is a living relationship whose meaning is inseparable from the world that it sees and experiences. There is no need to "take thought" in order to know that we are alive. To think for ourselves properly means to be aware of our reactions to the world, and to not allow those reactions to run wild on their own...

Real reactions are wordless, soundless, and even without familiar content. They are just the expression of something timeless touching something in time. The mind talks to itself in order to define these reactions for its own purposes, using its own past content in a vain attempt to reconcile the moment. The true reconciliation of any reaction is built into the very moment of the appearance of it...

Classroom Talk: 3/1/2019 - The only way to defeat those dark states within you that forever bully you around is to realize that in the Higher Reality of your True Nature there is no rule that says push must lead to shove!

Question: How do you integrate and apply the principle that "I am bigger than this moment" when your mind is programmed otherwise? How do you practice stopping reacting? Answer: You don't practice stopping reacting, you see that you can't stop reacting.

We don't usually think to ourselves that we're asleep and that our entire identity is the moment to moment fabrication of what we are reacting to in that instant. Until there is something that rides the waves of these reactions and sees them crest and fall, we will appear and disappear with every last wave. In watching the waves we will not mistake ourselves for being the waves.

Student Talks: 1/12/2024 - Key Lesson: Any form of painful demand -- whether on others, or upon ourselves -- is born of unconscious attachment; it is proof of a level of consciousness that would rather cling to what has been, than allow real Life to help us see our True Self is not only the living incarnation of each new moment, but the eyes that see it take birth.

Topics covered: What usually follows a moment of regret is not a change of consciousness, but instead a new set of justifications to explain why we did what we did; We are easily "triggered" because we are loaded with pain, the weight of the past, and we don't know what do to with it; It is impossible to let go with one hand, and hold on with the other. That is not real letting go...

Topic: Stop Being Bullied by Your Own Stressful Thoughts and Feelings (Classroom Talk 12/6/23)

Topics covered: We are bullied all the time by something within ourselves that we do not recognize as a bully. In fact, we often look to this inner bully for guidance; What makes us the favorite of any bully? The answer is that weakness always pounces on weakness. The bully does not exist without something to bully; We are bullied inwardly by fear, anxiety, anger, worry, depression, or any other negative state that we are not aware of...