Self-Compromise

In this answer to a viewer's question, bestselling "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about a strange part of ourselves that actually thrives on the sensations it receives when it does something harmful. It is the very awareness of this inner dynamic that brings about the gradual end to all self-harming behavior.

In this answer to a viewer's question, "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about how there is a part of our consciousness that will seek to derive a false sense of self out of anything, even if it means going into pain over something that is unwanted.

In this short video clip, Guy talks about two words that we can use in our relationships with others for the purpose of exposing the part of us that wants to gain a personal advantage at the expense of what is true.

Topics covered:  One of the signatures of a small mind is the tendency to make mountains out of molehills; The sky has no reaction to the clouds that pass through it. But unlike the sky that allows everything to move through it, we identify with just about every passing thought; What we suffer over in any unwanted moment is not the event itself; we suffer over our reaction to the event. The reaction tells us that something outside of us is responsible for the negative experience of the moment.

Topics Covered: We are dependent upon any condition that we think will grant us independence. That is a recipe for fear; True independence can be found within the very feeling of impermanence that a part of us fears; Our longing for freedom belongs to another order of consciousness that is already free. To long for something is to want to close the distance between ourselves...

Second force prolongs whatever it is that we resist; The illusion that my identity exists apart from the image it's attached to; There is no 'I' without an opposite; Thoughts are outside of you; The self feels incomplete the moment it imagines what will complete it; Poverty of self; What is incomplete can't bring an end to itself with anything that it will acquire; Being called inward...