The Shocking Secret of Self-Liberation
The strength of any negative reaction cannot be separated from the force of resistance we feel towards that "event." And where does this resistance begin if not in some form of insistence the moment should not have unfolded in the manner it did?
What is the real source of this insistence?
By any other name, it rests within some kind of a demand we have -- unknowingly -- placed on a moment... before it unfolds.
But no such claim, let alone its pain, can exist without our first having become identified with an unconscious belief in its promise. And when that desired outcome turns sour, so do we...as whatever we had imagined--and depended on--as part of our coming fulfillment clearly isn't coming!
To see the real nature of these unwanted moments is also to see the truth that sets us free... that is, IF we're willing to accept what these moments reveal about our present level of consciousness:
However real seems the suffering of any strong negative reaction, the power it holds over us rests in our refusal to see the following:
Without whatever we had imagined ourselves as needing to have, or one day become...there is no resistance to any moment that seems to deny that dream.
In other words... we have been empowering the pain we keep looking for ways to overpower, re-empowering it every time we imagine some new "me" that will finally be free of it!