Cancel the Pain of Isolation Created by Personalization

There is a persistent visitor in our life and we never ask it, why it visits us, and what it wants. The visitor is pain, stress, anxiety and frustration. We never ask it, "Why are you here?" We give ourselves an explanation and justification for its presence. We have to stop listening to the mechanical chattering of our mind telling us what everything means based on our resistance to what life has delivered to us. Once we seek a solution to our pain, we have isolated ourselves from learning why this visitor has come. We are not supposed to be a pallbearer for the pain.

The pain we feel in our lives is not ours the way we personally take it. We have never asked the pain, "Tell me what you are about?" because if we did, we would give up our imagined position of being the one who knows. But if we did ask the pain why it was visiting us it would tell us, what it has brought to us is meant to help us grow. But once we personalize the pain and explain it to ourselves it becomes real. The pain has a purpose and the purpose is to invite us to enter into a new order of relationship with the entire moment. It always has to do with something in us that does not want to be pain free.

We cannot learn from anything we resist. When lessons come along, they usually come in the form of pain and worry over some condition that we think is happening to us. Pain is always the veneer of a lesson. Its presentation is not for the purpose our resistance tells us. Resistance personalizes the moment. What has been moved in us in the turning has been turned to show us what has been living latent inside of us. Imagine a revolving door of the content of self, turning not according to our will but according to the agenda of the universe. The opening reveals the content of a specific chamber and the self steals into it and assigns an imagined label to it. We are not in pain now because of what happened to us in the past but to be free now. We don't ask the pain, "What is it about?" we assign an idea to it. So, the pain is perpetuated and cemented inside of us with a certainty that it is justified in its suffering.

This lesson that comes from the pain is to help us divest ourselves of personalizing everything. Personalization is always the source of isolation and separation, which is the opposite of integration. Truth makes everything whole. Personalization is the antithesis of this. What we hear is not what others are telling us but our personalized version of what is happen according to our content and past experiences. We can't hear and personalize at the same time.

We can't learn what it means to be a whole human being until we are able to have no interest in personalizing anything. A drop of water dropped on a Masonite desktop beads up. That's what happens when we personalize things. The pain is there for our healing but instead our harden natures meet it with who and what we have been. A drop of water dropped into the ocean integrates itself. You can't have an enemy without a personal you. The ghost of your past can't help us.

There was a spiritual teacher who wanted to teach his students a lesson. He told them they had to choose one class of people, blue, green or yellow or they would be thrown out of school. When we are in pain, we think we have to choose between the opposites the pain provides. Nature can only consider one element at a time. We want to bring into the moment a third factor, which will heal our lives. One student realized if he chose one class of people it would be against the others. He chose no side. He chose the side of seeing, learning, truth and independence from fear of not choosing correctly. The self that decides is always part of who we have been. When self chooses out of resistance and fear, it denies itself integration. Choice separates us from what we are choosing from. We can never know what is acting on us. True knowing is being something. Choose relationship and don't define and provide for yourself understanding. Catch yourself personalizing and wake up in favor of the present moment. No one can be in God's great show that is the star of his or her own.