Most of us, if we have one shred of decency, have tried to do stuff about the stuff that we don't want to know about in ourselves, and certainly that we don't want others to know -- "the dirty little secret" -- how there's a certain party or character that given the right conditions, will appear and absolutely not only corrupt you but anyone and anything that it touches. How about this?...

To hold a wish to punish someone begins with the unconscious embrace of the very pain we wish to inflict.

Those with whom we assemble we will soon resemble, so the simple old saying goes. Yet it tells of a deep truth. It says that who we are -- the stuff of our soul at present -- is being transformed continuously by the nature of the company we keep; so that, in our essence we are always moving and evolving towards a kind of psychic oneness with whatever relationships we have revolving around us t...

The seemingly scary condition, whatever it may be, is not the problem. It is your reaction that is fearful. This is why if you will become conscious of your condition instead of afraid of it, you will change forever your relationship with fear. To be consciously afraid means that you know you are frightened, but at the same time you know that these very fears, as real as they may seem, a...

Question: Your teachings say that making demands and having expectations just sets us up for trouble. I know it's true. I always plan how other people should act and how things should turn out, but they never do what I expect, and then I become angry and disappointed. I sense that I am causing all my own pain. If I could just learn to want for myself what life wants for me maybe I wouldn't...

The will to be free belongs to that special part of us able to remember that we are here on earth to grow beyond the limiting influences of our own unawakened nature; it knows we are not created to participate with anything that causes us to suffer unconsciously. Our task is to awaken ourselves to this Higher Will within us that won't be compromised. How is this done? We must remember -- now a...

Topics covered: Discussion of Guy's new book on Relationship Magic; Responding to a calling; What are the biggest problems in today's relationships; Is digital technology negatively impacting relationships; What is the ""magic"" aspect of the book title; What can we learn by seeing ourselves through the eyes of another; It's pain that picks the fight; How much does early trauma affect relationsh...

Topics covered: Discussion of Guy's new book on Relationship Magic; The most abundant resource on this earth is relationships; Every moment in life is for our greater development; When we push to change our partner, our partner pushes back; Seeing our complicity in conflict instantly changes the relationship; The real magic is the action of Love; Relationships are microcosms of a broader set o...

Topics Covered: Dealing with the effects of aging in our marriage; My husband has rage issues - can he change?; Feeling pain from someone else's dishonesty; My adult son lives with me and is sullen and uncommunicative; Should we treat others the way we wish to be treated; Feeling like I haven't made any progress in my spiritual work; I've slipped into a black hole...