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You Can Change Yourself with New Understanding

  • Posted: Thursday, October 10, 2024
  • Meeting: Wednesday, August 9, 2023

  • Duration: 2min 21sec

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In this short talk, Guy explains that nothing outside of yourself is punishing you. What is punishing you is your own resistance to what it feels like when people are rude, crude, or unkind. You want to blame others for the pain that you are in. See the resistance. Be aware of the pain of resisting. Be aware of the pain of blaming. The more you can be aware of that pain, the more unwilling you will be to lend yourself over to the demand that others treat you a certain way. You are never going to change other people, but you can change yourself with new understanding.

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Jon: Michael asks, "How do we wake up when the same problems -- and he refers to family problems -- keeps pounding against us? I'm trying to be awake, but I'm surrounded with a barrage of negativity."

GF: If you went outside and you had a bucket of black paint, and you threw it up into the air, Michael, would the air turn black? Or would the paint rise and fall, and the air would remain unchanged? Nothing is pounding on you, Michael. What's pounding on you is your own resistance to what it feels like, that you don't want to feel, when people are rude, crude, or unkind. You're never going to stop people who are in pain and believe that, in their dream, that you are the source of that pain. You're not going to stop them from trying to punish you or act towards you in the way they do -- passive aggressive, all the rest of that nonsense. There is no pain in this psychology, apart from a part of this psychological structure, this persona, that resists anything that sets it off. We don't understand that what is set off is not "Michael." What is set off is the dream "Michael" has about himself as being a certain kind of person, and the dreamer that keeps it in place every time, through that resistance, "Michael" wants to blame others for the pain that he's in. See the resistance. Be aware of the pain of resisting. The more you can be aware of the pain of resisting, the less likely you are -- and the more unwilling you will be -- to lend yourself over to that dream that nobody should denigrate or treat me like this. You're not going to change anyone, but you can change yourself with new understanding.

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