No individual relationship is the (sole) cause one's conflict or pain; our relationships reveal the nature of an unconscious pain that we bring into them with us. To start discerning the difference between these (two) perceptions is the beginning of freedom from blame, shame, and other acts of useless thinking.
We must do more than just try to remember that nothing disturbs our peace of mind without first having gained our consent to enjoin us in that conflict; we must learn to fight for ourselves, to boldly reject any negative state that would rule us -- or else accept the lot of victim and wear his mantle of woe.
ED: Hello. I'm Dr. Ellen Dickstein. Welcome to a Fireside Chat with bestselling inner life author, Guy Finley. During a number of our chats, we've talked about negative emotions, and I thought that this time we would hone in on a particular emotion that is a great problem to many people, if not everyone, and that is fear. Guy, there are many different types of fear, and people react in differe...
We all know that unwanted moments seem to wait for us "right around the corner," making fear and worry our constant companions as we walk through this life. But while certain "shocks" are inevitable, being made a prisoner of some negative reaction to these moments is not!
Topics Covered: There is no freedom without understanding the root of fear; We cannot have a problem that is not connected to the fear of losing something. Inherent in any anxiety-inducing problem is an unseen threat; Anything that threatens what we depend upon for our identity is perceived as an enemy; Fear is always trying to save itself from perishing. But listening to...
We can never hope to be free as long as any part of us struggles with, or suffers over what others are doing, have done, or won't do with their lives. Besides, if we could remain aware of the often-compromised state of our own character, that is, how we still do those things to others that we don't want to do, this awakened conscience would stir in us a new need. Rather than worrying about whether so-and-so gets his comeuppance for being the...
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Classroom Talk: 11/19/2023 - The single greatest unseen cause of premature aging, stress-related health issues, and ultimately of death is... the deeply mistaken, agonizing idea that somehow our constant struggle to control the outcome of any moment we fear will one day free us from these moments we fear.
Aside from extremes and obvious harm, does it matter where we place ourselves physically? I know we can and need to work whenever and where ever we are but one cannot deny obvious occurrences and impressions in different neighborhoods, cities, states etc. Work and lack of work has required me to move around a bit; I've noticed myself, subtly absorbing the environment's mindsets even while try...
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Classroom Talk: 5/23/2021 - Since no desire can complete itself - by itself - through anything it imagines - its only recourse is to imagine "more of" whatever failed to satisfy it the first time around. This unseen cycle is the mainspring of all forms of addiction, as unconscious desire keeps trying to fill a bucket with no bottom by pouring...