The pain of impatience doesn't exist without some unseen level of self, already in place, that secretly demands events must take place precisely as it has imagined they should.

Seeking the approval of others -- in the hope of measuring the worth of ourselves -- makes as much sense as looking for our reflection in a falling drop of rain, with the main difference being this: A raindrop actually lasts longer than does that fleeting sense of self we win for having sold our soul for another empty smile.

Classroom Talk: 9/7/2022 - Nothing makes us more common, more like all those we constantly judge, than being identified with a false sense of self that would have us believe that -- by some "act of God" -- we're so much better than all we see.

The great secret of self-transformation: never forget that your work is where you are, and with what you are doing... and not with where someone else is, or what he is or is not doing.

Student Talks: 1/24/2025 - Awakening is the (graduated) process of negating all forms of identification; (it is) the realization that no matter how real the feel of any familiar sense of self -- for its pleasure, or pain -- nevertheless: no sensation does a “self” make, any more than a wave on the sea makes the sea from out of which it rises, and must return.

Before we express any dark feeling of disdain, we have first embodied and then identified with that painful state by which we now hold the perceived in contempt...and this unseen state of self-compromise is celebrated amongst the dark gods that laugh over our unconscious, but consensual demise.

It is not enough to just passively receive the lessons we are given. We must act upon their revelations and further clarify their import.

Only in our conscious awareness of a personal limitation -- through our ability to sense the presence of any indwelling negative, or otherwise self-denigrating thought or feeling -- is realized the strength we need to die to an unconscious nature that, otherwise... lives to ensure that we accept its dark and limited view of life as our own.

Allowing any part of self to act in such a way as to deny yourself a new awareness of yourself -- whatever its character or quality -- is the same as refusing your right to realize the limitless depth and breadth of your True Nature.

Topics covered: Why we feel the need to control events in our lives; The past is comparison; Wishing things were different than they are; Do what is in your power and refuse to do what is not; What is the purpose of every moment; Our relationships can be used for revelation; Overview of Guy's book 'The Secret of Your Immortal Self.'...

Question: Your teachings say that making demands and having expectations just sets us up for trouble. I know it's true. I always plan how other people should act and how things should turn out, but they never do what I expect, and then I become angry and disappointed. I sense that I am causing all my own pain. If I could just learn to want for myself what life wants for me maybe I wouldn't...

There may be no greater self-deception than the false notion that rushing through anything actually helps us in any way whatsoever.