Have you ever noticed just how unhappy you can get over the fact you are not happy? Unexamined, this behavior seems to make sense. But a closer look at it will reveal that being unhappy over being unhappy is like throwing gasoline on a fire to put it out. You get lots of fire and smoke -- even a strange excitement -- but in the end all you are left with is ashes. This is why you must understan...

Topics covered: We are bullied all the time by something within ourselves that we do not recognize as a bully. In fact, we often look to this inner bully for guidance; What makes us the favorite of any bully? The answer is that weakness always pounces on weakness. The bully does not exist without something to bully; We are bullied inwardly by fear, anxiety, anger, worry, depression, or any other negative state that we are not aware of...

Darkness, in whatever form we experience it -- from a simple black, starless night, to a depressed thought or feeling -- only exists in the absence of light.

We can either be one with all that is changing in life, or we can remain in the dream that we live apart from these changes and continue fighting with them struggling on in the vain hope that we’ll find the peace we seek somewhere on the battlefield.

Topics Covered: Dealing with the effects of aging in our marriage; My husband has rage issues - can he change?; Feeling pain from someone else's dishonesty; My adult son lives with me and is sullen and uncommunicative; Should we treat others the way we wish to be treated; Feeling like I haven't made any progress in my spiritual work; I've slipped into a black hole...

Topic: Loneliness, Heartache, and Depression; Questions: My partner wakes up cheerful and I wake up resistant; How does one actually 'stop complaining and start changing'; I feel stuck in my marriage but don't want to go through the discomfort of ending it; I stay in a loveless marriage because I fear that I won't learn the lessons I'm meant to learn; Is it okay to leave your partner if they'r...

In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how the universe wants us to succeed as human beings. Although it may seem otherwise at times, when we finally understand the truth of this, any and all doubts about whether or not we can really find true happiness will cease.

Real achievement -- the true measure of how far we have advanced in life -- is not determined by what we have acquired, but rather by the degree to which we have put our fears behind us.

ED: Hello. I'm Dr. Ellen Dickstein, and I'm here with inner life author, Guy Finley. We're going to be talking about letting go of negative states. Guy, I was thinking about this topic today and I actually had to laugh, because I thought you'd never expect to hear two people talking about letting go of a hot pot handle. There seems to be a wisdom of the body that knows if something is causing...

Whenever we find ourselves confused, depressed, angry with someone, or upset with ourselves for whatever reasons, we must come wide awake and realize -- through our inner awareness -- that we suffer as we do because we are ruled in these moments by our own thoughts and feelings.

I feel that my life is an emotional roller coaster. One day I'm happy and my future looks bright and hopeful. Then something unexpected happens and I'm suddenly depressed and negative. Everybody I know seems to go through the same kind of thing. Is this why we're alive, to experience these changing sensations?...

Any thought telling you "it can't be done" is only as convincing as you're willing to be held captive by its lie. Getting started -- with whatever it may be -- is as simple as remembering that there's nothing in the universe that can stop you from taking the first step.