Allowing the rushed state of another person to push you into an anxious state of mind... is like letting the horse you're about to ride convince you to wear the saddle!...

Topics covered:  If we all wore t-shirts that described our inner lives, they would say "Out of Order: Proceed with Caution;" The great unspoken assumption behind all of our unrest is the certainty that what is happening should not be happening; Everyone and everything challenges the order that we have established. And anything or anyone that is out of order must be put back into order so that all will be well again, in a time to come.

Part 1 It makes no difference to whom, or at what we point the finger of pain as the figure to blame for our suffering, because until we are aware of our own hand in these same unwanted moments... nothing can change. Part 2 The unconscious assumption that the more negative we are towards any given situation -- given the "wrong" we see as having been done to us -- proves that w...

Most people want very much to be strong, but they do not seem to be able to find the real strength they yearn for. Instead, they find qualities that pass themselves off as strength, but secretly leave them feeling weak. Here are some examples of false strength: * lashing out in anger when frustrated * demanding that we are right * blaming someone else for causing the problem * being loud and...

Part 1 You can no more separate a painful pattern in your life from the unseen part of yourself responsible for its return... than you can blame your face for the unhappiness you see upon it while looking in the mirror. Part 2 If we want "all there is" -- the full measure of love, joy, a life without limitation -- then we must learn what it means to accept all there is - even when...

As a rule, talking to ourselves about an event that just happened to us is either the avoidance of actually seeing what took place, or the first step in forming an attachment to its outcome. And these are often one and the same action.

Most people would rather complain about "unwanted" moments than (agree to) meet, illuminate, and die to the lower -- habitually negative -- level of self responsible for their repeated appearance. Always having something to blame -- and to complain about -- is how this dark nature keeps itself out of the Light that alone has the power to reveal the lie that is its life; so that as long as we r...

Any and all attempts to change our unhappy experiences of life are doomed to fail until we learn how to change the way we participate in these same moments. For as long as we see our troubles as an effect of life, and summarily define our actions based on this perception, then all that can change for us is what we blame as cause. We must become cause, consciously, if we wish for a new outcome.

Featured Study Group Topic for the Week of May 29, 2017. It is impossible to protect a fear, and to cooperate with the Divine Work of perfecting your self at the same time.

Getting negative over how others treat you is the same as mistreating yourself! Stop wasting your life. Wake up and be wise. See dark thoughts and feelings as the lie that they are. Then, instead of suffering their cruel presence within you as proof that someone did you wrong, you'll see these negative states themselves as being the sole cause of your suffering.

Topics explored in this dialogue: When it comes to letting go, we need to start seeing what we're holding onto; Resistance is an automatic, natural, necessary feature which is for our development -- but it becomes a hindrance when it's rejected; The moment you envision being free once you get this or do that, you put yourself in a time capsule of captivity; Real freedom is the freedom to grow...

Topics covered: Relationships are the ground for all lessons in life; Our partners aren't here to simply please us; Limitations are shown to us through our relationships; Relationships makes us either better people or more bitter people; Fights do nothing to heal pain; Real problems in fights are deeper than what the fight is about...