Many times the very thing we want from others is the very thing that we ourselves either lack at the moment or otherwise somehow are withholding from them.

We cannot hide from what we fear to go through in life any more than a child who, hiding under his bed covers at night, can outrun the boogey man that reaches out for him in the dark of his own fearful imagination.

Let us work to lose our fears themselves, and not become the captive slaves of what they would have us believe must be protected; for what good is it to stand guard outside the door of any house into which thieves have already broken?...

I recently listened to your talk "Start Healing Your Heart, Mind and Soul" in which you say that whenever I blame somebody I'm lying. I've just returned from the hospital after suffering several physical incidents that were clearly someone else's fault. How do I reconcile these events with what you've said in your talk? (From student correspondence)...

Remastered Classic Talk: 8/26/15 - The real thing that's unwanted in any moment is not the event we blame for our pain. The actual source of (our) suffering is in having identified with a negative reaction, and then mechanically resisting this unconscious state now rooted in the darkness of our mind. In other words: resistance is the source of (our) pain, and not the event we blame for it. Once we see our complicity in the creation of these troubled thoughts and feelings... it's not that they go away, but rather that in dropping our identification with them, it is we who are now empowered to depart from their dark world.

The following may shock you, and I hope it comes as just that. Everyone practices prayer twenty-four hours a day . . . only neither do they know they're praying, nor do they know (and this is the real problem) what it is they're praying for! And this fact of life includes those people who say, "But I don't believe in prayer. I don't have a spiritual practice." A moment's consideration of the...

How many of us spend our precious time and energy fuming over what others may have done to us? Unseen in the steam of our heated emotions and churning thoughts is the one inescapable fact that we are the secret prisoner of anyone we wish to punish. And the more we would punish this person, the less freedom we have to be at peace with ourselves. Here's a beautiful lesson in invisible justice,...

Seldom do we know a greater need for making a fresh start than in those mind-numbing moments when we find ourselves feeling thrown for a loss. These feelings of loss often leave an unconscious, invisible residue of fear which tends to taint every area of our lives with distasteful timidity, born of the neurotic suspicion that in some way, life is conspiring to take something away from us. Bu...

The only way it's possible to truly deliver ourselves from the punishment of our own self-wrecking thoughts is to begin awakening to their hidden cause within us.

Guy Finley explains that when we lend our attention to considering any worry, blame, regret, or resentment, we have unknowingly agreed to be commanded by that negative state.