Who is in charge when anger takes over? Guy explains that we often don't realize something else is controlling us in moments of stress or resentment, and invites us to, instead of reacting, pause and ask, "Who is in charge?" Stay with the question without rushing to answer. This awareness creates a crucial separation between our True Self and our reactive nature. Remembering this in the moment can lead to real inner freedom.

All negative emotions, but especially anger, are the offspring of one dark state...a frustrated desire that would rather set fire to the object, person, or condition seen as being at fault, than turn around and see itself for what it is in reality: the unseen source of its own suffering.

Topic: Freedom From Harmful Anger Starts Here (9/29/21 Classroom Talk)

Resentment is an unseen gravity, a deceptive force embraced by fools. For though it grants us what seems a safe course and temporary anchorage for our anger, by its guidance we always run aground and are left stranded in a dark harbor through whose cold waters swim the enemies of our soul.

We all have experienced feeling angry and hurt when someone speaks their mind to us and is disrespectful. Being tolerant and nice only works to a point, and then we find ourselves unable to contain our feelings and helpless to deal with the anger we feel. In this Q&A Guy Finley reveals that the real question isn't, how do I stop getting angry with people, but rather, what can I discover about my own anger?

Part I: When you can look a worry or anger in the eye and tell it, "There is nothing between us anymore," then you are well on your way to the birth of a new kind of freedom in you that nothing can oppose or ever take away from you! Part II: Our problems, what amounts to our lives defined by these protracted burdens, become weightless the moment we cease to identify with them. Objectively th...

Topic: Discover the Unseen Source of Stress, Anger, and Fear (11/10/21 Classroom Talk)

There are those who will tell you why it is wise to never forget the pain of the past . . . but if you look closely at the anger, sorrow, and bitterness that has hardened their faces, then you will also see why learning to forgive is the better of the two paths.

Anger, fear, and resentment, are not the bitter leftovers of whatever we might want to blame for having wrecked our life. These states are a storm in themselves, and to see them as such is the first step towards anchoring the vessel of our soul in a safe harbor.

Guy Finey looks at the condition called "anger" and how it is possible to escape dark inner conditions once we realize the part we play in the visiting of that darkness.

We value negative states because of the strong sense of self we get from them. This may be very difficult for us to see, but a strong light will show us the freeing facts. No one wants to believe that he or she values things like self-pity, anger, and depression. We would insist we don't, and as evidence we point to the fact that we fight against them, but the struggle gives us a false sens...