Before we can learn how to step outside the pattern set into motion by some habitual negative reaction toward others, we need a better understanding of the underlying forces that create it. In other words, we must find a way to look at these same moments through a "new set of eyes."
Until we realize that continually identifying with our own conflicting desires about how to win peace of mind is like using a cannon blast to light a candle, we will only remain at war within ourselves -- all the while blaming the world around us for its insensitive inability to grant us that imagined peace we so desperately seek! Let's illuminate, by example, a few of these conflicting desir...
When we look at life and we see a problem, are we looking at life that has a problem that's fixed, or are we looking at something in our own consciousness that has fixed something and called it a problem? We're looking in our own mind and it is showing us something that is fixed, yet we know it's not because life itself is fluid; it is potential. But our mind doesn't relate to what...
Guy Finley will give a free talk on The Secret of Letting Go: How to Drop Fear, Worries, and Painful Regrets at the Port Orange Regional Library, Florida. If you are in the area, please join us. Talk will also be livestreamed.
To see the truth of the above is to understand how important it is for us to be as fully mindful as possible in the midst of a disagreement with our partner.
Here are three indisputable facts about painful negative reactions. The best way to study them, to prove their spiritual power as your own, is to take each one and make its lesson your own...
Whether we know it or not, we create the content and the quality of our own lives moment-to-moment. In fact, you are creating and experiencing your destiny even as you read this. Which means that what you think of being your future is really the choices you are making -- and experiencing -- right now. To understand this truth is to unlock the treasure of your True Self, and gain the abundance of...
Every day we are attacked by a multitude of pains, so frequent and so familiar we don't even question them. In fact, we accept them as friends, as something to occupy us. These pains can range from petty irritations to the anxiety we feel every time we write a check and see our bank balance decrease, to concerns about our health. One of the major sources of pain involves other people and our relationships with them.
I know it's a mistake looking to someone else for a sense of myself, but how can I keep from giving myself away? I have a lot of self-doubt and general lack of confidence. Can you shed some light on this?...
To hold a wish to punish someone begins with the unconscious embrace of the very pain we wish to inflict.
Freedom is not overcoming what you think stands in your way. It is understanding that what is in your way is part of the way.
When in a fight of any kind, over anything, we look over at the other person and "see" - almost magically - exactly what's wrong with him or her in that moment. So confident are we in our conclusion as to the nature of their problem - that the following has almost no chance to dawn on us: We can't see that person is looking at us in this exact same kind of "light"... that is not a light at all...