Classroom Talk: 8/22/2003 - A painful regret is a needless present pain over an experience now past, where a misstep becomes the seed of a misery mistakenly carried forward, instead of a lesson learned and then dropped.

Classroom Talk: 7/16/2003 - At their outset, right choices are not always free of fear or doubts, but unlike all wrong choices, our right choices never leave us with painful regrets.

Topics covered: stress, worries, regrets, problems, potential, fearlessness, new energy, negative states, power...

Topics covered: sorry, apology, apologize, regret, remorse, spite, compassion, thoughtlessness, inconsiderate, seeking approval, looking for approval, approval...

Part I: Seen properly, what is any dark mental or emotional habit -- such as regretting our life, cultivating resentments, or fearfully trying to protect ourselves from what "may be" -- other than the unconscious practice of perfecting what punishes us? Part II: Resisting any negative state merely helps it realize its full potential to make you its prisoner!...

Whenever painful events happen, they tend to fall on only one of two sides of a person. The first side is the denial side. When turning this way, refusal rules. Regret, self-pity, and endless explanations generally follow. Or, the unwanted moment falls on the angry side, where the turning is to burning. Resentment rages. Hatred and feelings of betrayal mushroom into....

Classroom Talk: 4/17/2002 - Revisiting one's past and living out what once was is a false light at sea that promises safe harbor, but that draws the unwary to crash upon the rocks of regret and sorrow yet to be resolved. Learn to make the present moment your personal port of call and watch how the waves of what didn't work out disappear in the perfect calm of It's sheltering Reality.

 

Most of us live an accidental life... where our actual condition is constantly covered up by the convenience of being able to regret whatever we look back on as the source of our pain. But let’s be clear. Our list of painful regrets is not due to a cruel world, bad timing, or unfortunate events that got the better of us; no, the fault lies elsewhere...

Classroom Talk: 7/2/2004 - The secret purpose of that self-loathing nature in us -- that wants us to suffer today for what we could not do yesterday -- is not there to help us make straight our mistakes, but rather to ensure that we waste the rest of our days struggling to escape the ache of useless regrets. Awake! Detect and reject despair! It is not the guiding light it seems to be, but it is a cold heat that compromises any heart into which it seeps.

When I was 17, I did something very wrong and still feel shame, guilt, and remorse. Even though I am 60 now, I still regret what I did in the past and occasionally get depressed about it. I know it is not helpful to hang on to this, but it haunts me. I feel like what I did was evil. I let go of the behavior, but still live in fear of imaginary repercussions in some time to come. I try being p...

Classroom Talk: 7/2/2004 - The secret purpose of that self-loathing nature in us -- that wants us to suffer today for what we could not do yesterday -- is not there to help us make straight our mistakes, but rather to ensure that we waste the rest of our days struggling to escape the ache of useless regrets. Awake! Detect and reject despair! It is not the guiding light it seems to be, but it is a cold heat that compromises any heart into which it seeps.

In order to let go of any painful past condition -- so there is never again a moment where regret or sorrow is pulling us down -- we must allow every movement, each unexpected event encountered, every thought and feeling -- no matter its character -- to have its own life. If we will attempt to view life from this new and higher understanding -- that everything...