"The fox blames the trap." But, a wise person, shaking – quaking in a sudden awaked-ness after being caught in a trap of his or her own devices – doesn't fall into the second trap: blaming others for the pain of seeing what they alone have wrought. It may seem incomprehensible – especially to the "clever" fox – but there is a nature in the human an...

Guy Finley explains that you can't change a situation you don't want without first changing the nature that got you into it in the first place. Unless that nature changes you'll fall back into the same patterns and attract the same people and unwanted events. Seeing the situation from a higher view reveals the lower level you've been acting from. Then real change can happen.

How do we normally develop a new skill? For example, how do we learn to high jump? We listen to instruction, and perhaps we watch someone else; but for the most part, we learn by doing; by trying it ourselves. Generally, with our first attempts we end up crashing into rather than clearing the bar, and when we do, there's no denying it. We can see, and feel, that we've come up short. Our coll...

Before we can hope to stop blaming, regretting, or hating ourselves for what we are not, we must agree to see ourselves as we are.

Featured Study Group Topic for the Week of October 15, 2018. Refusing to blame others for our pain is the same as asking for an awareness of a dark and unconscious nature that believes the best way to make things right...is to do wrong; that the surest way to get over our suffering is to blame someone for it, as if our healing depends on making others hurt.

There is no one to blame for a negative feeling that you don't want that is, unless you think your waiter is responsible for the meal you don't like when you go out to eat.

Most people would rather complain about some painful life pattern than dare to meet the level of their own consciousness responsible for its repeated appearance.

Stop looking for reasons, things, people, and events to blame for your negative state, and start waking up to the lower level of self that's responsible for it.

Whenever you make someone else's karma your own, you'll always blame them for it...

Blaming conflict-filled feelings on any condition, or person, outside of yourself is like getting angry at your shoes for being laced too tight. Most men and women recognize the need for a healthy balanced diet because good eating habits nourish the body. Good nutrition helps keep us agile and strong. And we also like to learn new skills to expand our interests. Challenging mental activities...

If failing to reap what you think you sow, blame not some ill-fated star. Life bears this true: the seeds do show, you harvest what you are.