The next time you run into some familiar blockage or begin to feel unsuited to face some new and difficult personal challenge, don't do what you've always done before. Don't try to think your way around it. You no longer want a way around your troubles because what goes around, comes around! What you want is to grow beyond the level of that disturbance. And to do that, you must not act from it.
As we realize that there is no way that painful concern can positively affect any outcome, we drop that concern, and bit by bit, we begin to hear what real life has been trying to tell us all along.
Almost every kind of unhappy feeling is the result of mistaking the partial for the whole. What this means is that when we don't see the whole picture, we are likely to act in a way that is self-defeating. One example of this would be that terrible sinking feeling that comes with learning too late, after you've become upset, that things weren't the way you were so sure they had been. That, in...
The next time you run into some familiar blockage or begin to feel unsuited to face some new and difficult personal challenge, don't do what you've always done before. Don't try to think your way around it. You no longer want a way around your troubles because what goes around, comes around! What you want is to grow beyond the level of that disturbance. And to do that, you must not act from...
Wouldn't you agree that no real friend of yours would ever want you to hurt yourself? And wouldn't you also agree that if you did have a trusted friend that you later found out had lied to you, you wouldn't trust him again -- at least not the third, fourth, or fifth time? You know the saying: Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me! For the sake of our studies, let me add one mo...
The first step to breaking out of any rut in life is to no longer enable the parts of us that keep walking in them while wishing they weren't so deep.
Whenever painful events happen, they tend to fall on only one of two sides of a person. The first side is the denial side. When turning this way, refusal rules. Regret, self-pity, and endless explanations generally follow. Or, the unwanted moment falls on the angry side, where the turning is to burning. Resentment rages. Hatred and feelings of betrayal mushroom into....
Letting go is the journey and it never ends. Never. It only begins -- over and over again -- each time we can glimpse something higher than our own painful certainty over who we think we are. So it is here, within ourselves, that the work of letting go must be done. To fully see what is unwanted by us begins with revealing what is unknown...
Within each of us there is an expansive world of thoughts and feelings whose movements determine how we perceive and experience the world outside of us. While this inner-world of thoughts and feelings may not directly bring us what we see, it does profoundly influence how we see our world of relationships and events. In other words, we are seeing the exterior but experiencing the interior. One...
Guy Finley will give a free talk on The Secret of Letting Go: How to Drop Fear, Worries, and Painful Regrets at the Port Orange Regional Library, Florida. If you are in the area, please join us. Talk will also be livestreamed.
The reason we haven't as yet realized real rescue -- and so usually wind up trapped in a tangle once more -- is because every time we ask ourselves how we've managed to get stuck again, we usually turn right around and tell ourselves the answer.
Many students ask (and I paraphrase), "What must I do to win more of God's love, to be in greater contact with the Divine? How can I learn more about the celestial life, and begin to have more light in my life?" In truth, there is an answer to this kind of question, but no matter how the answer is stated, the only ones who can really hear it are those who are tired of listening to themselves...