In this answer to a viewer's question, Guy explains that self-judgment cannot exist without an image of ourselves that we hold onto. To see this fact is the beginning of the end of painful judgment of both yourself and others.

Classroom Talk: 4/20/2022 - No one is free who has an ax to grind with any other person, let alone who grind themselves down with painful self-judgment believing, in vain, that self-punishment is somehow connected to self-perfection.

Guy Finley answers a viewer's question about the constant self-judgment we impose upon ourselves. He explains that the need we feel to "succeed" comes from an identity attached to an end goal, and when that goal isn't met, it feels like everything falls apart. Guy goes on to say that instead of trying to control the judgments...

Classroom Talk: 9/4/2022 - The harsh, or otherwise cruel judgment of ourselves feels like it's part of what's necessary to perfect ourselves... when, in truth, it's actually a mechanical movement of an unconscious mind punishing itself for not being as it's imagined it's supposed to be.

Classroom Talk: 8/22/2003 - A painful regret is a needless present pain over an experience now past, where a misstep becomes the seed of a misery mistakenly carried forward, instead of a lesson learned and then dropped.

Classroom Talk: 1/18/2023 - Until we understand that the revelation of some undesirable quality in our consciousness is not an accusation, but a Divine invitation to realize and transcend that unconscious character... we will continue clinging to the false belief that judging ourselves proves we are superior to what we judge.

Student Talks: 9/9/2022 - Key Lesson: The harsh, or otherwise cruel judgment of ourselves feels like it's part of what's necessary to perfect ourselves... when, in truth, it's actually a mechanical movement of an unconscious mind punishing itself for not being as it's imagined it's supposed to be.

Guy answers a viewer's question about giving up anger and self-judgment when a friend shuts you out. Discover ways to navigate relationships with understanding and compassion. We spend so much time measuring ourselves, hoping to come out ahead, yet measuring inherently contains the "short stick."

Topics covered: Whatever remains concealed can never be healed. What remains concealed is the cause of the conflict we have with ourselves and others; Self-judgment guards the door to self-renewal, convincing us that protecting the old is preferable over the new; Revelation of similarity to your neighbor is what leads to compassion and the end of conflict...

Topics covered: As a rule, human beings know more about their iPhone than they know about the 'i' that is running their lives; It is never useful to judge another person. It is never useful to judge yourself; Nothing ever changes when you judge yourself. And judging yourself is not the same as seeing a true fact about yourself; The more that you judge yourself, the easier it becomes to judge yourself...

In this Saturday discussion, judgment, the principle activity of the divided mind is explored. Guy encourages us to see that judgment and comparison are a mechanism of the mind by which it derives a sense of self. But this division in the mind between judge and judger...

Any unkind, cruel thought that we have and hold about the nature of another -- or toward ourselves -- is the dark expression of a slick, sick conflicted level of "self" that’s able to hide its chronically negative nature (from itself) by sitting in judgment of others.