I have a friend, also a seeker, who regularly listens to various popular authors speaking about the path to enlightenment and who even teach methods for being present. My friend frequently tries to engage me in debating the merits of these teachings, challenging me to question what I am learning about waking up from you and from this website. I find that this puts me in conflict - not only with my friend but myself! I wind up getting defensive, judgmental, and filled with self-doubt. What is this all about? (From student correspondence)
Fighting over methodology about how to achieve an open and compassionate mind, a heart willing to discover the truth of itself, is like wrestling over who has the best telescope for viewing the stars! Further, in truth, it should not bother you at all that your friend doesn't agree with what you see as being true; if we need the opinion or support of someone else to confirm what we see as reality, then it is our grasp of what is real that should be questioned... not theirs.