Part 1
If it's a Real Life that you seek, then you must stop thinking about it -- running after what you want from it -- and instead learn what it means to look at your life. Only this action -- of conscious self-observation -- can bring you to what your heart of hearts seeks above all else: the realization of another order of Self -- already present within yourself -- that is greater than the sum of all your parts.
Part 2
Remembering oneself is not resisting oneself, but seeing and understanding -- all at once -- the need to rise above oneself by a completely different effort: to see and to know oneself through a completely different level of consciousness.