Most people would rather complain about "unwanted" moments than (agree to) meet, illuminate, and die to the lower -- habitually negative -- level of self responsible for their repeated appearance. Always having something to blame -- and to complain about -- is how this dark nature keeps itself out of the Light that alone has the power to reveal the lie that is its life; so that as long as we remain identified with its pain, we can be sure that the only thing that can change (for us) is what this unconscious level of self finds to complain about.