Since I can't know the specifics of the moments to which you refer, it's difficult to answer your question...so I will make a few?suppositions. First, if you're in a conversation with someone, and something hurtful or rude is said to you, then the application of the "Stop, Drop, and Endure"?exercise?here is 100% appropriate, given that you haven't gone "silent" as a secret way of making the other person squirm. But, if you have taken the shock of the moment -- internalized it properly by becoming awake to the flood of hurt feelings, instead of allowing them to carry you away with them -- then you have no reason to hurry through and out of this state of quiet awareness.?

The "demand" on the part of the other that you respond (in some way to his inappropriate action) is his attempt to escape the pain of himself by goading you into a negative response that will justify his original comment or action. Stay inwardly still (watchful) until you can consciously respond without expressing the negative energy now stirred up in you. If done "properly" your response will not be on the same level of the comment that creates the situation.?

If, on the other hand, you are with friends (or at work!) then your work to silently endure some state needs to be mixed in with a dash of conscious acting...wherein you remain?vigilant?to your state but without causing unnecessary?discomfort?to those around you. Experiment with all things; do not fear "failing" when it comes to the work of increasing your awareness. There is nothing to be gained by the mind that measures its own activity.