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Who Is In Charge When I Get Angry and Upset?
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Who Is In Charge When I Get Angry and Upset?

  • Posted: Monday, February 24, 2025
  • Meeting: Sunday, February 2, 2025

  • Duration: 2min 29sec

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Who is in charge when anger takes over? Guy explains that we often don't realize something else is controlling us in moments of stress or resentment, and invites us to, instead of reacting, pause and ask, "Who is in charge?" Stay with the question without rushing to answer. This awareness creates a crucial separation between our True Self and our reactive nature. Remembering this in the moment can lead to real inner freedom.

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Kate: All right. I'm gonna bring in this question that Susanna sent in because it goes right along with what you were just talking about. Susanna asks, "So, if we are angry or upset, do we say who is in charge? Would that help us when we are angry?

Guy: I'll tell you what, I don't know that I would, but you know, it's okay if you need you. You feel that stress and anger coming on... that resentment. In that moment you could wake up enough just to realize something is taking charge of me. That's the point. You see, everybody, Susanna,  Jordan, I don't know when something takes charge of my heart, my mind, and my body. I don't know it because I acquiesce to the need... Its need to control because I believe, meaning I'm identified with, what it says it has to have and do in order to be safe. So, who is in charge? Good question, because if you'll ask the question, and listen to me, and don't look for the answer, remain with the question, Susanna, as long as you can. Because when I say, you know, boy, something really wants to say something cruel in that moment, is there not a momentary separation between the usual nature trying to control the circumstance and the part of myself that can see this thing wants to control because it's afraid or angry that it's image, idea has been challenged? So, go with that. I'd love to hear a report from you next meeting, what you learned when that moment came, if you could remember it. That's a big thing. If you could remember who exactly is in charge here, because I would never give myself over to the service of something that wants someone else to suffer. I would never agree to hurt myself. And yet, here's something that's in charge of me, and that's what it's doing. Now we're beginning to reach this point where we're creating a true, natural, necessary separation between the weed and the chaff and the grain. The goodness that comes out of that can't be measured... as you'll see, Susanna.

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Who Is In Charge When I Get Angry and Upset?

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