Work to catch the reaction of blame when something happens and you become impatient, anxious, or angry. Notice how blame appears from a foundation of judgment along with all the reasons why something or somebody outside of yourself is "found guilty" for the pain you are in. Playing the blame game is an avoidance of the pain of seeing yourself as you are. Only something that is imperfect wants to punish what it sees as imperfect in other people. As you come to understand this, you are left with an awareness of a nature in yourself that acts without conscience. Don't fall into the blame trap. Consciously bear the pain you are in and become aware of the temptation to blame. This will draw to you the higher help that you need to use the pain for a greater purpose.