False Self

Our experience of each moment -- for its pleasure or pain, peace or trouble -- is a direct reflection of what we are in relationship with in the present.

Question: I know it's a mistake looking to someone else for a sense of myself, but how can I keep from giving myself away? Answer: What good is any feeling we may have about ourselves, if it only lasts as long as others agree to it? Seeking and receiving approval from others is like sitting down hungry to an imaginary meal. You're invited to eat all you want, but no matter how much im...

We are masters at fooling others into thinking we have command of ourselves, but any attempt to appear as anything other than what we are is not only a lie but an act of fear. There is no real consolation in that kind of self-consciousness, as it is a default role that has been selected for us without our knowledge.

Question: I don't know why sometimes I feel so much resentment toward the very people whose approval means the most to me. It just doesn't make sense. When these times come, not only am I unsure of why I am acting the way I am, but I don't even like myself. It doesn't add up! How can a person be in charge of his own life one minute, and in the next minute find it in someone else's hands? What'...

Guy Finley explains the key to being able to discern the true inner guide from a false one.

Guy Finley explains that fear is not real any more than the shadow of an object is the object itself. It is merely a projection of a nature that has set itself against what is real. Just as we cannot defeat the hydra by attacking its individual heads, we must work to see and change the nature itself that uses the many heads of fear to divert us from its hiding place in us.

In this brief talk, "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about how the discovery of who we really are -- our "true self" -- is possible only as we become more and more aware of the legion of false identities that have been operating mechanically in the dark.

In this short talk, "letting go" author Guy Finley explains that there exists within all of us a lower nature that is always operating unconsciously to get us to be the expression of its will. Awareness of that nature allows us to cease identifying with its mechanical movements.

Whenever we don't want a particular condition and then attempt to push it away, we actually strengthen the condition that we say we don't want. To see this dynamic taking place as it happens causes a separation from that level of self that falsely believes that it can feel better about itself by resisting life.

Like the invisible winds that move the branches on the trees, we live in a world of this unseen, but ceaseless, flood of thoughts and feelings.

As we learn how to take the higher ground inwardly and begin winning that life for which we are created, we are gradually empowered to prevail over any event and challenge that life presents.

The only way we can be released from any painful sense of false responsibility is to see that it is based in a false belief.