In this answer to a viewer's question, "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about the painful deception of fighting for one side in a conflict because we feel threatened by the other side. Nothing will ever change in any meaningful way by struggling on the level of the opposites. It is useless to try to change a world that is not interested in knowing what is useful to the soul.

In this question and answer session, Guy explains that we are not meant to be the servant of a mind that believes conflict is the way to solve any problem. Seeing the part of us that finds a peculiar enjoyment in conflict is the beginning of separating ourselves from it.

Most of us like sitting by a river and watching the water or anything else come downstream and then disappear in the distance. When watching a river, we don't usually focus on one thing in the stream and then resist it as it floats by. We are intended to be the observer of the stream of our interior life in much the same way that we would enjoy watching a river.

Topic: This False Conclusion Ensures There Can Be No End to Our Conflict with Life (Classroom Talk 2/28/24)

Classroom Talk: 2/28/2024 - The unwanted moments that move in-and-out of our lives are like shadows that pass through a forest on a sunny day; they do not come as some blind force set against our best interests; rather, they come to help us realize what our best interests actually are.

Topic: Stop Struggling with Life and Set Yourself Free (Classroom Talk 2/21/24)

Classroom Talk: 2/21/2024 - Spiritually speaking, we have but one problem: we are unable to see that the source of our conflict with life -- including the suffering it induces -- is inseparable from an unseen false belief, as follows: unless we keep struggling with unwanted moments, we'll never reach, let alone realize a time in our life... when we can finally rest from our struggles!

Topic: See this Unsuspected Source of War and Realize a Peace that Passes All Understanding (Classroom Talk 11/1/23)

Classroom Talk: 11/1/2023 - When it comes to being in conflict with one another -- at whatever level or scale in which that painful relationship plays itself out -- each of us is responsible for what is happening to both of us.

Topic: Transform Hurtful Arguments Into a Healing Space (Classroom Talk 4/19/23)

Classroom Talk: 4/19/2023 - The less we try to "teach" others about their shortcomings, the more insight we gain into our own.