Forgiveness / Blame

Classroom Talk: 6/7/2002 - Part 1: Those pointed negative states that jump out of us whenever we rush to blame someone else for our pain are always dead-end streets whose one-way signs deceptively read: This way out! Part 2: In a heated moment of a trial with someone else, instead of struggling in vain to get him or her to see the lesson in it for them, we should learn to ask ourselves, "What is the hidden lesson in this for me?"

What is the #1 Reason Why Relationships Fail? For years men and women have labored under crippling ideas about what it takes to build long-lasting, loving relationships. Just leaf through the countless pages that have been written about how to rescue your relationship and you'll find as many contradictory ideas about why relationships come crashing down as there are people on this ear...

The cost of peace is what we bear within us when we cease blaming others for the conflict we feel. --Guy Finley This is a special talk that Guy gave to a small group of students that was thought-provoking, liberating, and shocking, all at the same time. It provides deep insight into the real causes behind escalating global conflict, using the Israel-Gaza war as a model to reveal the unse...

It's a simple, beautiful truth: Resentment hurts. Forgiveness heals. In all cases. No matter what. The problem is that sometimes it's really hard to forgive. There is a part of our mind that loves to hold on to painful thoughts and feelings -- even though they aren't good for us. It's not our fault that our minds have been conditioned to work this way, but now that we know what's g...

Being relieved of a great debt has to be one of the most liberating feelings in the world. A weight is off your back. A nagging doubt is off your mind. A limitation on your future is washed away. We know this is true when it comes to financial debt. And it's even more true when it comes to another form of debt that most of us don't even know exists, let alone that we're racking up...