In this answer to a viewer's question, "letting go" author Guy Finley talks about how grief over the death of a loved one will complete itself and become something else if we will not resist the experience and allow it to be what it is.

How to heal from grief after losing a loved one, and use our suffering for its intended purpose, is answered in this insightful video. When an aspirant asks Guy Finley how to heal from grief after losing his wife, Guy explains the difference between the natural pain of loss versus unconsciously revisiting the past which only ensures our continued suffering.

No one really wants to talk about it, but the truth is, there is a kind of "evil spell" hanging over each of us and our world as well. In fact, part of this global spell is our denial of its existence. It is called suffering. Everyone does it -- and, like hypnotized captives, everyone believes that their suffering somehow benefits them. That's how the spell works. Why else would anyone punish...

"Letting go" author Guy Finley talks about how real humility appears within us when we see the role that we have played in making life more difficult for ourselves and for everyone else around us.

An inner place of safety exists. If we stand in that new position, no dark feelings can affect us. That position has always been there, waiting for us to find it. It is the place where the True Self resides. But we have mistakenly believed that only two options were open to us: to either stand and suffer, or run away and suffer, with our problems in constant pursuit. We always listened to the...

Who you really are can't lose anything because your True Nature is one with the whole timeless goodness of life.

Guy Finley talks about the necessary, healing shock of seeing that the things we value the most in our lives are impermanent at best... and yet it is this very revelation of impermanence that is the doorway to a true change in our values.

There is a kind of "evil spell" hanging over each of us, and our world as well. In fact, part of this global spell is our denial of its existence. It is called suffering. Everyone does it -- believing that their suffering somehow benefits them. That's how the spell works. Why else would anyone punish themself with unhappy feelings unless they had been tricked into somehow perceiving self-hurt...

No one likes to be told what to do. The odds are, if someone tells us what to do, we are not going to do it. This is how most human beings behave. But we are intended to outgrow this stubborn, prideful nature that will not consider anything higher than its current view. If we are encouraged to do something that is good for us, what is it within us that refuses? The answer is that it must be so...

The truth is that letting go is very simple and, above all, natural; as natural for you and I as it is for a tree to shed the heavy, sun-ripened fruit that clings to its branches.

It's well known that storm-tossed waves often expose new treasures along the shoreline; there is unexpected wealth to be collected by those who know the secret value of rough seas. And yet, even though most of us have little tolerance for anything that "rocks our boat," the truth of the matter is self-evident: *Unwanted moments introduce us to parts of ourselves that would otherwise never get...

When we are hurt badly, the higher lesson hidden in this trial is to recognize the time has come to let go of who and what we have been up until the moment of loss.