Judgment

Guy Finley answers a viewer's question about the constant self-judgment we impose upon ourselves. He explains that the need we feel to "succeed" comes from an identity attached to an end goal, and when that goal isn't met, it feels like everything falls apart. Guy goes on to say that instead of trying to control the judgments...

In this insightful video, we explore the cycle of self-hate and its hidden dynamics. Many of us unknowingly nurture self-hate by identifying with the negativity it generates, creating a perpetual loop of blame and judgment. The key to breaking free lies in awareness—learning to observe and question the patterns driving self-punishment. 

In this Q&A Guy Finley explains that what we really fear being judged is what we have imagined ourselves to be and what we then think we need to do to protect what we've imagined.

In this short talk, self-realization author Guy Finley talks about the benefits of a quiet mind, which includes the recognition and letting go of the pain that is inherent in the mind's judgment of both yourself and other people.

In this answer to a viewer's question, Guy explains that self-judgment cannot exist without an image of ourselves that we hold onto. To see this fact is the beginning of the end of painful judgment of both yourself and others.

Topics covered:  "Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest." -- Ecclesiastes, Old Testament; Any sort of development requires a certain amount of voluntary suffering. The path of development requires that you meet limitations; We will go through great pains to make sure that we get what we want. But there is another kind of pain that we don't usually want: seeing the truth of our present nature.

Topics covered:  True teachings are not intended to console the listener. They are intended to produce new insights that change the consciousness of those who allow the truth to act in them; Before rebirth there must come a death. "For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it." -- New Testament -- There is an order to things that cannot be twisted. True teachings talk about how things have become completely reversed.

Topics covered:  Most of us don't know anything at all about our obsessions. When a person is obsessed with something, he or she sees it as natural and necessary; Life is intended to be simple. Everything that is perceived as being difficult is, in reality, simple for the level of understanding that sees from a higher perspective; The Kingdom of Heaven is within. It is not out there in the world of thought and its temporary creations.

Key Lesson: We cannot see what we will not look at... but it is not "us" who refuses to look.

Topics covered:  Everyone thinks that their life is already in God's hands. But who's hands are we in when we are angry or fearful or anxious? Who's hands are we in when the only thing we are filled with are thoughts about ourselves; "For I know that in me (that is, in my flesh,) dwelleth no good thing: for to will (what is Good) is present with me; but how to perform that which is good I find not; For the good that I would I do not: but the evil which I would not, that I do.

Key Lesson: If you want a "misery-backed" guarantee that the painful relationship you have with whatever troubles you about someone -- or with something -- will never change... Just keep complaining to yourself about it!

Topics covered:  The mind creates enemies through resistance to its own memories; You are not going to think yourself out of the experience of yourself. The thinking nature IS the experience that it wants to escape from; Most of us live within a repeating psychological pattern that includes the plans to escape from it. Eventually the human being becomes the pattern.