Painful Memories

How to heal from grief after losing a loved one, and use our suffering for its intended purpose, is answered in this insightful video. When an aspirant asks Guy Finley how to heal from grief after losing his wife, Guy explains the difference between the natural pain of loss versus unconsciously revisiting the past which only ensures our continued suffering.

In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley explains that the fear of being rejected by another person is caused by a mind that is reliving an old painful memory, tricking you into believing that what happened in the past is the only possibility.

Key Lesson: There are as many memory-paved roads promising a new life as there are old thoughts trying once again to escape the consequences of themselves. The tragedy is that every road built by memory eventually circles back to the same familiar destination, because the traveler has never changed.

It's impossible to die to the pain of our past... as long as we remain identified with an unconscious nature that can't seem to go through a day without reliving some dark memory it then summarily resists.

Topics covered: When does the world change? When you change the way you see the world; The blessed ones through the ages have tried to convey the idea that you need new eyes to see what is in front of you all the time but that you don’t currently see. And the reason you don’t see is because the impressions that are intended to produce a real change are deflected by all kinds of buffers — beliefs, conditions, longings.

Topics covered: There is nothing that you can do in a dream to wake you up from the nightmare of being a human being who is spiritually asleep; Unlike all other creatures, you have been given the gift to be aware of your own consciousness, as opposed to being asleep within it and a captive of its own movements; The mind creates a dark drama and then struggles to find a way to escape from the very scene...

Topics covered: Liberation is simple. It is as simple as realizing the truth of yourself in any moment of feeling resistance; Our present idea of being a successful human being is measured by the goals we outline that we think we must achieve in order to complete ourselves; Built into humanity's current mindset is a preconditioned attitude of how the moment should be...

Topics covered: History repeats itself because it is our consciousness that repeats itself. We must not separate ourselves from the world that we see taking place outside of ourselves; When you see that the world is the way it is because you are the way you are, then you realize you are responsible for the problems you see; The reason we don't learn is because our present consciousness...

Classroom Talk: 4/17/2002 - Revisiting one's past and living out what once was is a false light at sea that promises safe harbor, but that draws the unwary to crash upon the rocks of regret and sorrow yet to be resolved. Learn to make the present moment your personal port of call and watch how the waves of what didn't work out disappear in the perfect calm of It's sheltering Reality.