In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley explains that in an unwanted moment, we have the choice to be actively aware of the burning reaction, or we can be passive and allow the reaction to dictate our actions. The awareness of the consciousness that has the reaction is the beginning of our freedom from it, and there is no other freedom than that.

In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley talks about making an exercise for yourself as a reminder of your wish to not get carried away by habitual negative reactions when they appear.

In the highest parts of our consciousness, there is a living relationship whose meaning is inseparable from the world that it sees and experiences. There is no need to "take thought" in order to know that we are alive. To think for ourselves properly means to be aware of our reactions to the world, and to not allow those reactions to run wild on their own...

Real reactions are wordless, soundless, and even without familiar content. They are just the expression of something timeless touching something in time. The mind talks to itself in order to define these reactions for its own purposes, using its own past content in a vain attempt to reconcile the moment. The true reconciliation of any reaction is built into the very moment of the appearance of it...

Classroom Talk: 3/1/2019 - The only way to defeat those dark states within you that forever bully you around is to realize that in the Higher Reality of your True Nature there is no rule that says push must lead to shove!

Classroom Talk: 1/7/2024 - Any form of painful demand -- whether on others, or upon ourselves -- is born of unconscious attachment; it is proof of a level of consciousness that would rather cling to what has been, than allow real Life to help us see our True Self is not only the living incarnation of each new moment, but the eyes that see it take birth.

Classroom Talk: 11/26/2023 - Since it is impossible to be unhappy over what you don't have without first having been subjected to some form of unseen painful comparison, this means the true source of one's unhappiness isn't because of some passing condition, but rather is a creation of an unconscious nature -- punishing itself -- each time it negatively reacts to some imagined happiness lost.

Classroom Talk: 8/13/2023 - Negative reactions -- in fact any form of painful resistance -- prevail only when we fail to remember it is -- at once -- our Divine right, and our work to transform, and transcend them.

Classroom Talk: 4/30/2023 - The witness to experience is not bound by it, any more than a clear sky can be captured by a passing cloud, or a sound can seize the ear that hears it.

Classroom Talk: 1/15/2023 - Negative reactions have no awareness of themselves at all, which means not only are they blind, but neither have they any awareness of how they are complicit in the continuation of the pain inherent in the condition they protest.

Classroom Talk: 11/27/2022 - Reactions are not actions, any more than an echo is the cause of its own sound... which means: we cannot escape moments we resist, any more than it's possible to outrun our own shadow.