In order to have a sunny life on a moment-to-moment basis, you must be willing to let something new happen to you. No one sincerely asks for a new life until they are thoroughly dissatisfied with the old one. Letting go of the old ideas is the only way to really invite something new. Let's look at one example of how our new self-knowledge can turn a painful and repetitive unhappiness into a bright and positive new experience.
Imagine that someone you think of as a friend suddenly becomes very disagreeable toward you. This could be at home or at work; the location and circumstances do not matter. We all know what happens. First, there is the initial confrontation. Then, either in a bang or like a kettle steadily building pressure, your friend begins expressing these angry and steamy feelings. Now you too are starting to boil. But you have been studying yourself. And, because you have been practicing higher self-observation, the arrival of these hot feelings brings with it more than just fire; there is also a new light. And in this special inner light, you can see that the surfacing anger is born out of being identified with feelings of fear: fear that this person before you doesn't understand you, might leave you, has stopped "caring," or will no longer serve to confirm your point of view.
In past situations such as these, prior to the awakening of this higher self-awareness, you would have gone on heating up and probably gone off yourself. There would have been yet another self-explosion and more people, including yourself, would have hated their day. However, that is not the case this time. Why? Because instead of defending your position, as was your old habit, you now understand that this "you" who is feeling threatened or attacked is not who you really are. You know your true nature never needs to defend any psychological or emotional position. This higher knowledge, along with your wish to let something new happen, allows you to simply and instantly drop this reactionary and false identity. Congratulations! At the instant you dropped this false life, you merged with real life. Here's the explanation: by starting your life over in that moment -- by not borrowing your life from a heated reaction -- you let that negative fear-feeling live and die. When you allowed yourself to let go of what was old, you stayed true to what is new.
The benefits of this clear-cut new and true action are many. Just one of them is that you don't have to go on living with the angry or anxious feelings that always accompany the insistence that others see life as you do.