Here is an exercise to help you take the first step up and away from self-punishing feelings. This exercise is called: Is This What I Really Want? You do not have to accept any inner condition that compromises your happiness. Read over the next sentence several times before proceeding further. It is never right to feel wrong no matter how right you may think you are to be feeling that wa...

Question: I often try during the day to start over, but quite honestly, no matter what I tell myself, I rarely feel anything dramatic happening. I may become aware of myself for a moment, but I can't seem to get free of my anger, or nervousness, or whatever else I'm feeling at the time. Maybe I'm trying too hard, but it seems that nothing new ever happens. Response: To really "start o...

Classroom Talk: 8/2/2023 - There is no new resistance; regardless how "fresh" the nature of a negative state -- be it fear, anger, frustration or regret -- the only thing that's actually changed in any seemingly new painful moment is what's being blamed for its appearance.

Dare to put aside all relationships other than those which serve to reveal what is essential to your real desire.

In difficult moments with others let us remember this truth: it is better to find ourselves lacking the love we need to be kind -- and to quietly suffer this humiliation -- than it is to act from what is unkind by lashing out to blame another as a way of hiding our weakness.

Negative states are never positive; they seem to empower us in times of trial, but in truth they blind us, isolate us, and steal from us our right to see that we are never more powerless than when identified with any form of anxiety, anger, or fear.

One thing is certain: whether in our waking life, or in the dreams that visit our evening's rest, thoughts and feelings fill our every present moment. But just because you can feel or sense all of their diverse characteristics -- such as worry, fear, impatience, courage, or compulsiveness -- doesn't make the "you" that experiences these movements real -- any more than standing under the ca...