The real reason negative states persist is because we resist seeing the following truth: blaming others for the pain we feel is like resenting our pants for being too tight.

Blame is the dark effect of denial, of refusing to recognize that when it comes to anyone or anything that sets you off...seer and the seen are one and the same.

Listening to negative states tell you who, or what, is to blame for the pain you are feeling, is like letting a thief that you've found breaking into your house convince you that he is the police come there just in time to help you catch the crook!...

Blaming others for the pain you put yourself through over their unpleasant behavior is like a skunk trying to escape its own stink by attacking its tail each time it goes up in the air.

Those who live in the dark of themselves are always the first to blame others whenever they stumble and fall... and the last to suspect that the real source of their pain is their own blindness.

Closing our eyes to where we may be in the wrong in that moment of any strained relationship does not make what is wrong within us any less of a burden to bear, but it does ensure that wherever we go we will find ourselves "bumping" into others and, for our pride-induced blindness, continuing to blame them for what we have refused to see.

Part I: The ease with which people blame life for their unhappiness is directly proportionate to their belief that it is possible to end whatever it is that makes them miserable by inventing new ways to do it! Part II: If a person could take just 10% of the force he uses to complain about what he doesn't want in life, and learn to direct this negative energy into doing the conscious work nece...

There is no one to blame for a negative feeling that you don't want that is, unless you think your waiter is responsible for the meal you don't like when you go out to eat.

Spiritually speaking, here's the secret to staying "cool" no matter what happens: if you smell smoke and see a flame, remember there is no one to blame: only you can prevent setting yourself on fire!...

No sense of bitter disappointment over the behavior of others can descend upon us without our first having fashioned some form of high expectations for them. Which means that whenever we start to suffer for the failings of another, our first action should be to realize that our unwanted feelings are not to be blamed on his or her character: rather, what really troubles us is what we would...

Part 1 Blaming others for the pain we feel each time someone fails to live up to our expectations is no different than burning our tongue on coffee that's too hot to swallow, and then calling our cup an idiot! Part 2 What we should seek in life is clarity, not comfort, for what is made clear becomes pure. Such purity is the heart of peace, while those parts of us that search out way...

Part 1 Where fear dominates, love cannot flourish; when love is shackled, freedom is too. Without freedom, transformation only furthers fragmentation; and the more divided we are, the more reasons we find to accept the tyranny of fear, blame, and doubt. Part 2 Until we are willing and able to put ourselves in the shoes of another, we have not yet stepped upon the true Upward Path.