Self-realization author Guy Finley explains in this short talk that happier, healthier and brighter relationships with others become possible when we begin to let go of painful grudges and resentments within ourselves.

Classroom Talk: 1/21/2005 - How strange it is that we resent carrying on our backs the pointed opinion of others, when it is we who give this barbed thought its power to trouble us. Think not? Then let us ask: what possible suffering can there be in what another thinks of me, unless I am holding the same thought as he?

In this answer to a viewer's question, "Secret of Letting Go" author Guy Finley provides some insights into how there can be resentment, antagonism, and hostility between two people who claim to love each other.

Here are two proven ways you can learn to work in the Now to ensure that you reach ever-higher levels of personal freedom. Our honest examination of these spiritual assertions -- based upon our own life experience -- proves our need to realize their promise. For best results, first meditate on what each statement means in and of itself. Let the freedom it illustrates awaken in you the remembra...

The next time you start to feel a burning sensation while busy holding someone's feet to the fire for having displeased you, take a closer look at those feet dancing around in the flames. That's right: they're yours.

Featured Study Group Topic for the Week of September 24, 2018. It is impossible for one to awaken -- to realize a new mind and a new heart that carries no residue of resentment, let alone the image of some enemy -- until one sees the absolute uselessness of complaining about anything, to anyone... Including to ourselves about our "self."...

Have you ever fallen down in a relationship? Fallen down when someone cut you off on the freeway? Fallen down when sudden economic news came at work? Fallen down when a thought revisited you about what mother or father didn't say, or what was taken from you by someone who promised you something and gave you another? Why do we have to fall down? When we...

Topics covered: fear, compromise, attachment, identification, resist, resent, blame, stillness, crisis, revelation...

Growing into the worlds above us - realizing the higher realms of consciousness within us -- requires that we outgrow the worlds beneath us. This is the great model, the matrix of reality, as it is reflected from above to below. There are no exceptions to or exemptions from its rule or purpose. Any appearance to the contrary is just that, and whenever we break this rule ...

Part I: Seen properly, what is any dark mental or emotional habit -- such as regretting our life, cultivating resentments, or fearfully trying to protect ourselves from what "may be" -- other than the unconscious practice of perfecting what punishes us? Part II: Resisting any negative state merely helps it realize its full potential to make you its prisoner!...

Whenever we hate or resent someone it is we who become hateful or full of resentment, which proves that we cannot give our lives over to any spirit of darkness without that same sick spirit transforming our lives into its very own. Therefore remember this Cardinal Principle of Consciousness: Attentiveness is "Preventiveness." Choose well your inner company.

Topics covered: Discussion of the lunch exercise; Our lower nature doesn't know what to do with tension; Tension is a driving spring of existence; Every moment of life is where two roads meet and a divergence takes place; Life comes out of tension; Exchange "get tense" with "wake up"; It is impossible to resist something and change it at the same time; There is so much energy available to a hu...