Why are changes in life so disturbing? When I was younger, change seemed exciting, and I longed for it, but now I do everything I can to avoid it. What is the correct response to change? How do I begin to let God lead me through what I must go through instead of always resisting change? Won't I lose control of my life?...

I know it's a mistake looking to someone else for a sense of myself, but how can I keep from giving myself away? I have a lot of self-doubt and general lack of confidence. Can you shed some light on this?...

Topic: How to Discover, Stop, and Drop All Forms of Unseen Self-Sabotage (6/12/19 Classroom Talk)

My spouse of 25 years died. My heart is in pain, and though I know that God is here, I don't understand the purpose of life and such suffering. My father died recently and I find myself often slipping into thinking about my grief -- overcome with memories, regrets, and a sense of loss. Though I can't conceive of how it may be possible, I can't stop hoping that my father remains in God's love...

Some things I've tried to accomplish in life have been such a struggle, and yet some other things have just "fallen into place," almost without much effort. Does this have any bearing on how we should choose to do things? Should I stop planning my life so much and just try to "go with the flow"? I'm almost afraid that if I stop planning so much, nothing will happen! I am overwhelmed by thinki...

I am constantly feeling overwhelmed by all the different demands on my time. It seems that I live out each day trying to "keep my head above water." This inevitably leads to discouragement that I will ever succeed at anything. I am feeling overwhelmed by sadness and a sense of futility. I just cannot seem to move out of this negative state because the pain feels so real to me. What inner act...

I have tried overcoming my fears, and fight as I might, I just can't seem to break free of their dark and self-limiting influences. To be safe from something, don't you have to find a way to be stronger than it? There is a person I would rather run from than run into. How can I stop fearing this person and trying to protect myself?...

My thoughts run my life, driving me pillar to post. How do I learn to recognize when I'm trapped in useless thinking? I feel drained! I am easily taken over by re-running unpleasant events in my mind. If I say something stupid to someone, I'll hear it in my mind for days afterwards. I know this is crazy, but I just can't seem to help myself!...

Topics covered:  "We shall not cease from exploration, And the end of all our exploring Will be to arrive where we started, And to know that place for the first time." -- T. S. Eliot; A paradox is understood when seemingly irreconcilable opposites are seen as complimentary; One question that we never ask ourselves: "If I do something that I regret, why does it seem like that action was the only choice in that moment?"

I lost a great deal of money to a dishonest business partner. I can't believe I could have fallen for such an obvious scam or that a person I thought was my friend could have stolen from me what I had hoped to be my children's legacy. I'm burning up inside with rage, guilt, and concern over what my children will do now. I know this is killing me. What would you do in my position? I am feeling...

It seems to take less and less to make me feel unhappy and dissatisfied with the things and people in my life. How can I rise above the increasing pull of negativity? Every year at this time I get ill. I don't understand the lesson I need to learn. Try as I might, I can remember nothing from the past that would have set off such a pattern. Do I need to be psychoanalyzed in order to become cons...

Painful experiences from my past have a way of coming to the surface and wrecking me all over again. How do I stop engaging myself with the past, and how do I leave this pain behind me once and for all? What is it in me that wants to re-live painful moments from my past, and what's it going to take for me to break through to totally present living? Is there a way to live in the present so that...