In moments of challenge, the tendency is to resist the unwanted situation because of the pain that seems to appear with it. But the truth behind these moments is very different from our habitual perception and mechanical reaction to them.
No moment in and of itself causes our pain. The real source of our suffering is some unconscious demand that we've placed on life... and not what life seems to be denying us.
The pain of impatience, anxiety, or most any stressed state doesn't exist without some unseen level of ourselves secretly demanding that events unfold precisely as we've imagined them.
We can't change others -- or the purpose of any given moment as it unfolds -- but we can work to place one less demand upon both. Only in this action can we hope to find the freedom for which we seek, because the only thing that imprisons us, in the end, is our resistance to whatever runs against our deeply seated demands.