Guy's Letters

I've seen that the wrong use of my attention can aggravate almost any problem. How do I learn to use my attention correctly so that things begin to change for the better in my life?...

How can the great truth that we reap what we sow be used to ensure the kind of success and limitless potential we are meant to realize in this life? How can we be certain that within us does exist this potential for a higher, limitless life of true success? Sometimes it seems like just a vain hope.

I feel drained from all my misguided and unsuccessful attempts to dream up ways to make myself more happy, more complete... I've had enough of feeling like I'm never enough and imagining ways to fill the void.

I have been in a marriage for 19 years and for the last 6 years it has not been good. What criteria is the best to use to decide if it's time to quit? We put up with each other and that's it. Is a successful relationship one that lasts for a certain amount of time? I've been divorced for a year and even though I believe I've dealt with our past issues, I cannot seem to put my ex-wife's *curren...

Sometimes I am overcome by a sad thought that appears in my mind or the image of someone who hurt me. I can run a whole mental movie about something that caused me grief, so that in reliving the event I actually re-experience the sense of loss. Why do such sad images run through my mind, especially given the fact of how much I wish they would just go away?...

Over and over again, I face difficulties with people in my family, and these situations prevent me from realizing peace in my life. My parents are in poor health and spirits, and always complaining. My sister (who used to be my best friend) got mad at me four years ago and now shuts me out. I try to communicate with my brothers, but they suffer from an abusive relationship with our parents, an...

My spouse of 25 years died. My heart is in pain, and though I know that God is here, I don't understand the purpose of life and such suffering. My father died recently and I find myself often slipping into thinking about my grief -- overcome with memories, regrets, and a sense of loss. Though I can't conceive of how it may be possible, I can't stop hoping that my father remains in God's love...

You often speak about finding the freedom to live the way we want, and that it's all an interior story. Is there a way to know how free we really are?...

Having to rush is punishing... is it also a sure sign that I'm "asleep"? How does rushing overtake me so easily? What can I do to deliberately slow down when the urge to hurry seems overwhelming? Are there some specific exercises I can work with to develop self-command, especially the ability to step out of hurried feelings?...

One of my biggest challenges is learning to deal with the unwanted changes that happen in my life. Is there a way of looking at change that would make it any easier to accept and let go of it so that it doesn't create even more problems for me?...

Is true enlightenment or rebirth actually possible for us to realize in this life? Is it something we have to choose, and if so, what is the choice to be made and how do we go about making it? It feels like I have been a seeker forever, but have not yet found the enlightenment I have been seeking. Is enlightenment something that happens, or is it just an understanding?...

When I look at myself, it seems that my most prevalent emotion is anger. It's always there. I frequently find myself caught up in what you call "mental movies," remembering all the cruelty and unfairness that seem to justify this anger. I know that indulging in this does no good, but I feel powerless to stop these raging thoughts. What can I do? I really am weary of my own out-of-control emoti...