Guy's Letters

You say not to deny fear or fight it or agree with it. Please explain. What do you mean by "walk through fear"? Can you explain what it means to be identified, and how it keeps us from seeing what is true? After certain negative events take place, I think I'll regain my peace of mind if I just "get even." How do I free myself from being overcome by such troubling thoughts? I still seem to get...

What can I do to stop living in the past? My main goal in life is to be as happy as possible. What would be the one thing I could do over and over again every day to achieve this goal? I think I'm in love with by "chatter-brain." When I do come awake to the present moment, thought does stop. It's extraordinary, but before I know it, I'm jabbering on again. My noisy mind must be what I pref...

Can you help shed some light on why we are here in this life? In conversations with others, I find myself insisting on being "right." Why should I care so much that my ideas about life are understood by everyone? Could you give some insight into loneliness and how to abolish it? Without reverting to their lower level, how do you get people to stop making their hurtful, cut-down remarks? How do...

I am trying to apply Light to a crisis caused by my husband's infidelity, and to not let fear or pain tell me what to do. I realize that I can only trust God, and that I am perfect in His eyes, but how can I not be in pain at the loss of trust and intimacy with my husband? Wasn't that what I was suppose to gain through marriage? I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about five year...

What is the source of the "blues," and what is the most effective way to begin shaking it? When I find myself feeling depressed -- in the dumps so to speak -- I tend to see myself as the victim of whatever situation is at hand. Then the more I find reasons to justify being the victim, the longer I tend to stay at my personal pity party. What would it take to snap myself out of this sad stupor...

Could you give some insight into loneliness and how to abolish it? At times it seems to me that the more I realize about the awesome nature of spiritual love, the more loneliness I feel in my current human relationships. I long to share my discoveries with others, but who do I turn to? Sometimes I feel a deep loneliness in my heart. I know I have many tools to be happy, and the most important...

I am pregnant and I've already felt the strong precious being inside of me. Especially when I am praying I feel the Spirit in my child. What words of direction can you give to me about being a mother who nurtures and never crushes or hinders a child's awareness of the Truth? I desire for my child to be truly free from the inside out. I'm confused about whether or not to help my children learn...

How does one stay awake, so to speak, in the dream world of sleep? A major part of our life is spent sleeping in bed. Does our spiritual work continue while we are sleeping? Would you consider dreams part of the false nature, and if so, are they just to be observed rather than be used -- as commonly referred to -- as subconscious insights? Every night I have a recurring dream about two people...

What is the healthy and enlightened attitude to have towards my financial responsibility to my family? I find it hard to be at peace with the pressure of bills to pay. I can see how my mind is just reacting to anxious thoughts of dire circumstances that are not likely to come to pass, but of course, there are "real" consequences that can't be ignored. On the householder's path, I sometimes fin...

I'm so tired of pushing against life all the time. Where do I find the energy to overcome this relentless stress? It seems like I need to be empowered in order to accomplish anything in life, either for myself or my family -- otherwise there seems no choice but to be crushed by the competition. If neither my own feelings nor social and economic forces can make me feel safe and secure, where do...

My spouse of 25 years died. My heart is in pain, and though I know that God is here, I don't understand the purpose of life and such suffering. My father died recently and I find myself often slipping into thinking about my grief -- overcome with memories, regrets, and a sense of loss. Though I can't conceive of how it may be possible, I can't stop hoping that my father remains in God's love...

Would you please explain how it is that we form attachments that end up being painful to us? How can I work to give up my attachment to ideas that I know from my own experience don't work anymore?...