Interviews & Radio Shows

Topics covered: Relationships help people discover hidden aspects of themselves; Most suffering comes from unconscious expectations and demands; Negative emotional reactions are conditioned responses from the past; Become curious, not furious; Childhood trauma and chaotic environments condition the brain to expect danger; People often unconsciously recreate familiar emotional pain because it feels psychologically familiar...

Topics covered: Suffering happens when something in life challenges a pattern that you don't even know you're a part of; Attention is connection; The sleeping mind is a breeding ground for self-defeat; New action is determined by the new light of a new intelligence...

Topics covered: We are meant to be renewed again and again, in every single moment; We don't know that we meet every moment of life with some kind of demand; The reason that we miss the moment where renewal is taking place, where rebirth is given to us, is because we all live with demands that we don't know we live with; You're not free just because you can say we're free.You're free when you live in a nature that gives you that freedom.

Topics covered: We seek fast relief from our problems. But what we really want is freedom from the consciousness that is the problem-maker; Get tired of your own explanations for the pain that you are in; The only thing that troubles you about other people is what you want from them; The solutions that the unconscious nature prescribes are designed to ensure the continuation of the nature that is prescribing those solutions.

Topics covered: We don't want to escape our consciousness, we want to transform it. Negative thoughts and feelings don't need to be overcome, they need to be understood; You cannot resist something and learn about it at the same time. To resist is to separate, to push away; The problem with our attention is not that there are too many distractions. The problem is that we do not possess our own minds. Until we possess our own attention...

Topics covered: There is no moment that does not have meaning. Every moment has meaning. The pain that we have experienced in most moments has been due to not understanding the meaning of the moment; We cannot be in psychological pain without resistance, which points to something outside of you as being responsible for the pain. The pain cannot be separated from the resistance...

Topics covered: The spiritual path is the path of negation, not affirmation. You must lose your life in order to gain it; Immortality is the gradual realization that you are already whole; We were raised to believe that our worth is based upon how others see us; We were raised to believe that there should never be any disturbances; When the observer and the observed are not separate for us, we are a participant in creation, rather than the observer...

Topics covered: The intimate enemy is a consciousness that is asleep to itself but does not know it; As long as we have good reasons for why we suffer, we are never going to transcend painful patterns; Something in us believes that there are good reasons to suffer over things that we have no control over; Sufi story: "I lost my donkey, but at least I was not riding it at the time." We are not meant to be saddled by negative thoughts and feelings...

Topics covered: We keep trying to change the exterior circumstance instead of waking up to our own expectations and demands; The way that we know we are good is how much we want to punish others for not being good; Letting go is the recognition that holding on hurts. The intelligence in awareness will not harm itself; The unattended mind will inevitably reach out and touch something that will cause pain...

Topics covered: Men and women have become masters at burying their secret despair; There is resistance inherent in creation. All light that touches any form elicits resistance. That resistance cannot be escaped. Our problem is that we do not understand that resistance so that it can be used properly; There is a constant communication between the source of creation and the creation...

Topics covered: Real existence is being rooted in an awareness that doesn't pursue anything because it is already a part of everything; There is no addiction that doesn't begin with a sense of self that feels incomplete; In order to win the approval of others, we have to sell ourselves. Our sense of self is dependent upon exterior conditions; There is no fear without the fear of disappearing, without the fear of losing myself...

Topics covered: Letting go has nothing to do with our exterior circumstances. What we have to let go of is anything that lends us an identity; There is no such thing as a healthy attachment. When there is a challenge to the attachment, then there is fear; With awareness of the pain of an attachment comes liberation from it; Letting go begins with awareness of how much it hurts to be attached. Awareness reveals the need to let go...