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I'm going to give you five ways to make the most out of every moment of your life. They're very simple ones. Then I'm going to explain each simple one. These actually are presented to you in a specific order because there's a broader story. Whenever I order principles, there's a broader story that's told in the collective understanding of them.

Number One of Five Ways to Make the Most out of Every Moment of Your Life: Say yes to yourself. Now, before you jump off and think, "Oh, that means I can go get the car!" That isn't what it means. You've been saying yes to desires that give you the fleeting sensation of being profitable, but that bankrupt you. No, saying yes to yourself means that I am going to make the most out of every moment. Because I now realize that every moment is an introduction to the yet unexplored depths of myself. That's what yes means. I'm going to say yes to what this moment wants to tell me about myself. Look, every moment -- this moment right now -- is talking to you, not just me. Every moment is trying to tell you something about yourself. How many of you have longed your whole life to be nothing but the center of conversation? Isn't it true? "I want to be the center! And if I can't do it socially, then I'll go home and have a beer and then I'll make the self the center of it anyway."

I'm telling you, you are the center of the conversation! You're just not in the right one. I'm telling you that life never stops telling you about... how many of you know what it means to go fishing with other people? I don't mean throw bait in the water. "So, uh, what do you think about me?" But you don't say it like that. You say, "Do you like me? Come on, do you like me a little?" And then, God help you if you say, "Yes." Why? Fishing, fishing, fishing -- fishing expeditions, because you want somebody basically to lie to you. You want somebody to tell you, "You know you are... you know how you think you are, you're all that." "Oh, thank God!" And you know they're lying. You know they're lying when they're talking to you, but you still fish. Life is telling you all the time about yourself. It never stops talking to you. The problem is you don't want to hear what life has to say. That's the truth. You want to hear it when it's saying, "What a wonderful day," when everything's bright and glorious. And the life it's showing you -- that's giving you these wonderful feelings about yourself, "Somebody loves you," "You've got some food on your plate, money in the bank."

But when life tells you something else, when life reveals to you other parts of yourself, you don't want anything to do with that conversation. But here's the key: I was out yesterday and I was looking around. And I asked the man I was with (who is a student), "How many notes do you think there are in the octave of God's life?" You know, like a piano - there are 88 notes, right? In an octave there's eight notes. How many notes do you think there are in the octave of God's life? How many do you think? And the answer is, there are as many notes as there are created forms. Every form sounds a note in you. When you look at it, every form, every energy (which is still a form) sounds out in you. Now, the beauty of this is (and I can never say it enough, because I think it's encouraging) there's no instrument in the universe like you, because you're one of the notes. So, that means that here's this infinite number of notes that can sound out in you, only in you, the way they sound.

Now you may not know the truth of this -- and God, I hope one day that you do, not as an intellectual concept but as the living instrument of that. That means that only you can experience the moment the way it's given. Which is, by the way, by perfect design. But the moment isn't really created for the you that you think you are. The moment is created for the Maker of the moment. And you're supposed to share in that life, in that moment, by receiving the vibration -- by receiving the impression; because that's how the moment communicates. The communication of this life is through impressions. But there's no impression without someone to be impressed, so it turns out to be one thing.

So, to say yes to yourself -- as the first way to make the most out of every moment of your life -- means that at this very moment, if I'm willing to, I am being given a certain kind of coin. Something has been made that I can harvest, because here I am at this point in time. Here is time passing. I can take something from this moment while the sun is shining -- meaning, as the revelation is occurring -- that no one else, that nothing else can, in the way that I can do it. And when you understand that, you have learned what it means to say yes to yourself. You've agreed to the true conscious exploration of your possibilities.

Tell us about yourself, Guy, and how you discovered your path as an author, spiritual teacher, and healer?

GF: I can't remember a time – even as a young boy – when there wasn't some kind of an ache in my heart. It was an unrequited longing born of two conditions that, at the time, seemed quite apart from one another. First, I wanted to understand why "adults" seemed fearful, easily set off, and so eager to lose themselves in endless social distractions. But, at the same time I wanted to know why the immeasurable love I felt for the ocean, or for grandmother, seemed to fill only half of me, while some other unknown half of me wanted more – than just to be with them. I wanted there to be no difference, no distance between us. Now I know this incomprehensible longing was an early indication of the direction my life would take in the years ahead: mine was to be a journey of love – to love – for the sake of a Love that had seeded itself into my heart before I knew anything of its existence.

In your latest book, Relationship Magic: Waking Up Together, you are focusing on relationships. Tell us some about this and what have you seen in your work that has helped others in their relationships?

The single greatest resource for those seeking self-realization is our relationships with one another, and especially with our partners in life – whether a significant other, siblings, parents, children, or coworkers. Everyone we meet – even strangers on the street – can serve as a very special kind of mirror in which we can see what we haven't yet realized lives within us. As a simple example, we all know the wonder of being with someone whose love for us stirs in us a corresponding feeling of love we can know in no other way – and by what they stir in us, they "show" us our own higher possibilities. In the same way, our relationships can help us realize; if we're willing; where the pain in our partner, or in anyone we know, is really the same as our own. But, as with love, they don't create this state within us – they reveal it as having always been there. Out of such revelations is a higher form of compassion born in us – and love has a chance to heal what had been concealed from all.

What is the reason many relationships sour over time and how can a couple reclaim the magic that brought them together?

The main reason many relationships fail, collapsing as they will into a heap of painful accusations, is due to a single false, but almost inescapable belief that appears at the outset of every love affair: without knowing it, we believe our partner is responsible for our happiness. And when they inevitably fail to live up to our impossible expectations any fault in the relationship is easily, and immediately blamed on them. The "magic" returns to our relationship as we realize this false belief is the real source of our conflict. As we assume rightful responsibility for our own negative reaction, respect replaces regret; misunderstandings fade out as new self-understanding moves in.

What would you like for those who read your new book to truly know about themselves?

We've all heard the expression, "when the student is ready, the teacher appears." Relationship is the classroom – the Love that brings any two or more of us together is the teacher, the lesson, and the realization learned. And then – it's back to school again!

As we should already know; assuming we sincerely aspire to a higher level of being; our present nature wants little to do with seeing its own limitations. Instead of being self-investigating (as we're created to be), interested in discovering the truth of ourselves, our first inclination is in the direction of being self-deceiving. So that rather than doing the self-transforming interior work of honest self-observation; whose Light alone has the power to first reveal, and then release us from all that wants to keep us from knowing the truth of ourselves; we make peace with these parts of us that live to bring us down into their dark world.

What we have to ask; that is, if we ever want to be truly, inwardly free is...how on earth did things get to be this way?

The truth is simple: We have come to believe, through a host of social and cultural mandates, that whatever we suspect is wrong with us; whatever character faults we suspect may be lurking in heart and mind; must not only be hidden from the world around us, but kept from ourselves as well. Any such unconscious conclusion is a prescription for sickness by sickness.

Here is the real medicine: We are made to be self-correcting. Each real correction made in us is the same as elevating ourselves above the unknown nature whose dark influence we had lived under. Like moving from a hot desert climate to a cool mountain retreat, each discovery of what darkens our path through life is the same as walking in the Light towards a Higher, happier Ground.

There are many parts in all of us that do not want us to know the following: The entire universe is working to help each of us become whole and "perfect in Heaven." The conditions that we run from, wherein we feel as though our own weaknesses will overcome us, are themselves unique creations of a Great Intelligence that wants us to learn of its Timeless Strength.

Yet, simply to state these truths, as bright and liberating as they are, is not enough. To be transformed by any Truth we must see the living truth of it. In this instance, as it concerns the recurring stress and sorrow that runs through our relationships like the veins of a leaf, we need some new ideas. Here is one such insight to help open our eyes to the healing that awaits us:

At present, what little awareness we have of what's wrong with us feels to us as though life is trying to punish us for what we are. Nothing could be further from the truth.

Our awareness of those aspects of ourselves, where we know we miss the mark, is not life condemning us. Rather, what's actually "punishing" us in these moments is our own limited understanding of the Goodness of Life...of how its Light appears only to reveal, and then heal whatever may be those punishing parts that are still hiding, unreconciled, in the dark of us. The real source of our pain in these moments is the negative effect of the knee-jerk resistance our lower nature feels any time one of its limitations is exposed.

Each time we catch a glimpse of a character shortfall in us, we do so by the grace of a Living Light. And it invites us, asks us; in the only form of a "dialogue" that we can share for now with this force for our perfection; to see ourselves in its light. So it is not negative to see the negative since it is the Perfectly Positive that makes this kind of seeing into ourselves possible.

All this compassionate Intelligence asks is that we accept its corrective Presence in us, and then to stand there, as conscious as we can be, within Its Light within ourselves. If we will receive what it reveals we are released from that former darkness. The Light transforms it and we are equally changed in that moment.

Making mistakes in life is one of its inevitabilities, as it's impossible to transcend any individual limitation without first agreeing to meet it. Such encounters are the path we must walk if our wish is to fulfill whatever may be our Divinely dispensed possibilities.

However, the more awake we can be, the more mindful of the whole of ourselves we are before we start moving toward any aim in life, the less likely we are to find ourselves feeling stressed, angry, or fearful over where we end up.

Use the following twenty-one unseen blessings of being mindful to help you realize just how nice it would be to see a pit before you fall into it!

1. If I were mindful, I would never be in a rush...even if I had to move quickly.

2. If I were mindful, I couldn't leave a mess behind me, let alone create one for someone else to clean up.

3. If I were mindful, I couldn't be tempted into making the same mistake repeatedly, let alone believe in the sense of regret that always follows.

4. If I were mindful, I wouldn't have to talk to myself for any reason, let alone explain or justify myself for whatever may have just happened.

5. If I were mindful, I could never say something cruel to anyone, anywhere, for any reason.

6. If I were mindful, I would never judge those around me, let alone myself.

7. If I were mindful, I would be consciously aware of anything I take into myself... whether some kind of food, my own thoughts and feelings, or the emanations of others.

8. If I were mindful, I would lose all fascination with talking about myself.

9. If I were mindful, I would know - without having to think about it - the general, if not the specific inner state of anyone around me.

10. If I were mindful, I could never be made to act impulsively.

11. If I were mindful, I would have no need, whatsoever, to put on any kind of pretense.

12. If I were mindful, I would be able to use the negative manifestation of others for a highly positive purpose.

13. If I were mindful, I would know the difference between wants and needs.

14. If I were mindful, I couldn't be brought to blame any other person for my pain.

15. If I were mindful, I would know the difference between useful and useless conversations.

16. If I were mindful, I would never embrace, let alone be convinced to hang on to a fear or worry.

17. If I were mindful, I could listen to others without having to inject something about myself.

18. If I were mindful, neither the imagined joy, nor the sorrow of some tomorrow would hold any attraction for me.

19. If I were mindful, I wouldn't misplace things, let alone my sense of self.

20. If I were mindful, there would be no interest in - or need for - psychologically defending myself.

21. If I were mindful, I would enjoy an effortless sense of gratitude and reverence for life.

So the question is: Given these 21 blessings of being mindful...why in the name of all that is Good, Holy, and Divine do we not place being mindful before all other pursuits? And shouldn't we dedicate our lives to being as perfectly mindful as it is possible for us to be?

Answer these two questions in the affirmative, act accordingly, and all unseen blessings will be yours. To ignore them is to turn your back on yourself and - with your inner eyes thus closed - to walk in ever-smaller circles, going nowhere but down.

Watch a cat. It sits silent, unmoving, until something catches its eye: a movement in the grass, a flutter in a bush... and the cat comes to life. Its predator instinct is awakened and -- by an act of nature that moves through every fiber of its feline being -- it leaps into the continuing circle of life... and death.

All movements, by their very nature, share three characteristics or qualities in common: first, they are always circular.

Second, at our present level of development, all movement is registered only by our senses.

Last, all movements exist as they do, and remain so only for as long as does the force of their initial cause.

The force of these movements tends to set other forces in movement; they are stirred into action by a corresponding force of attraction -- or resistance -- to that original movement. By proxy, these movements, and our sensory registration of all the sensations they produce, create corresponding movements within us. In this manner, identification with the movement takes place; one is first attracted to, and then gradually becomes dependent on this source of exterior stimulation for the familiar "fix" of feelings that they provide. These sensations fill one's life, holding emptiness at bay, and always -- by their momentum -- provide the hope of something more promising to come.

Accordingly, as a part of this movement, a form of dependency on the sensations it brings with it grows and creates -- in another iteration of the same movement -- a derivative sense of self that feels it must protect itself from anything that challenges the direction in which it is being moved; any counter movement is perceived as a threat to its very existence. And so begins its search for power to neutralize anyone or anything seen as its enemy; it seeks power to elevate itself above whatever may oppose it, so as to proceed -- unimpeded -- in the advancement of what it falsely believes to be its cause.

It makes no difference how any such movement defines itself, regardless of how seemingly noble; for regardless of how well-intended may be its inception, all human movements -- by reason of the very nature that brought them into existence -- end where they begin: at the start of another cycle... save for one added characteristic: dependency upon that movement has grown relative to the length of its existence; and where there is dependency upon anything -- whether ideological or personal -- therein breeds the fear of loss, and such fear is always, inescapably, the seed of mistrust and eventual conflict.

So, if one thing should be clear, it is this: whether it's the movement of a single individual -- or that of a hundred million people -- whether for personal prosperity or for global peace -- all are secret war machines.

Movements for a more unified and tolerant humanity only create further isolation and dissent. There is not one piece of evidence in our own violent past that passing time doesn't prove true: wherever two or more gather in the name of a cause, conflict is inevitable with those who can't see the wisdom of that pursuit. All of which brings us to this point:

The wise do not engage in any form of violence, regardless of how subtly such conduct and conflict may be justified. No movement, no compulsory compliance with even the highest of virtues, can create anything good; for all those caught up in that movement are either complicit in the conflict needed to carry it forward, or have become unwitting victims of an unseen attraction and dependency on the sense of feeling superior to those they oppose.

These truths are self-evident. But the fact of them does not dispel the need of this world to change. The question is... what is to be the nature of this revolution? In many ways, these truths themselves point to the way, the only way in which such a transformation of our planet may take place: we can call this way "a revolution of one."

The true revolution struggles not to change the conditions of this world, but rather to change the level of consciousness responsible for its compromised estate. Any other form of change is merely the continuity of the original conflicted nature at the root of all false and failed rebellions.

Any religious, philosophical, or governmental movement that must be enforced -- by carrot or by stick -- always produces its opposite.

Compassion cannot be enforced.

Legislated kindness breeds resentment-fueled anarchy; when any unstoppable force meets an unmovable object war erupts; such is the conflicted destiny of any unconscious desire not reconciled by love. But love is not a movement; its peace has no direction, and therefore nothing to put on a compass, let alone be charted. It is perfectly still, even though it allows everything that moves through it the direction of its choice. Out of this stillness -- that is the unseen gateway of love -- comes true, unqualified compassion: the act of first being able to mirror the suffering of another and then, by power of that same stillness, to step into that consciousness, and to share its burden.

This one action, and the personal sacrifice it calls for, has always been both the seed of true revolution, as well as its flowering. No one can "join" this movement because it has no beginning... And this is its unseen power and beauty: the true revolution doesn't begin in opposition to anything, and its success is not in a time to come. It is one's agreement to die -- moment to moment -- to any movement of self that sets itself against any other, including itself.